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No more nice guy, no more trying to keep it amicable.

Yes, unfortunately this is the right way to approach it. Several people here have commented how aggressive and adversarial some of us have posted lately, and I confess that situations like yours bring it out in me. I try not to do that if the WS has really wanted to R.

In this case, it's like a beloved family dog has gone rabid. You have to protect yourself because what you thought was nice has gone fucking crazy ass nuts.

It is best to start negotiations being very tough, then deal only when she makes concessions.

VAR on you at all times. She won't give you any warning before turning 100% against you and using any underhanded and devious tactic she can imagine. VAR at all times! Try to avoid being alone with her!

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Im having bit of a relapse tonigt. She's away out at OMs and Im finding myself sitting here fuming. The thought that my wife is away getting fucked by another man, right now.

When i see her I really hate her. But I get moments like this when I think of her as my wife, as she has been for last 8 years. The loving selfless woman. I know at front of my mind she is gone and turned into a selfish train wreck, but I do miss the woman I loved, wish she was here and not this cow she's turned into,

When she is out fucking the OM, she isn't your wife

I agree with Broken, she is not your wife.

And what she is doing is the most disrespectful thing a person can do. Never forget that, she is treating you with complete disrespect.

Start treating her as she treats you and in this case, don't talk to her and as they say, don't even give her the time of day.

When will she be moving out.

She's moving out on Tuesday, she gets keys Monday. I had to go on a 6 month rental lease with her. I checked with my lawyer and took some precautions first.

Getting her out and agreeing to me getting the boys 3 days helps me longer term. I stand to risk about £7000 if she never pays rent but on the upside courts here prefer status quo and dont pass rulings unless they need to. So if putting her there gets me kids for 3 days, its unlikely a judge will let her change that later. so the £7k risk secures my custody.

It will get easier when shes out. Last 3 weeks have been a living hell.

I hope her moving out brings you the space, both physical and mental, that you need.

Stay strong, concentrate on yourself and your children.

Your wife? Well, she's just somebody that you used to know.

If you met her for the first time today I doubt you'd choose to spend time with her !? Remind yourself of that when you're feeling low.

Take care.

It sounds expensive but it could work out in the long run. I am guessing she knows you will pay the money. Wasn't her dad supposed to co-sign the lease?

Anyway, next Tuesday you will feel better and be able to breathe easier, I am thinking.

her dad went 180!

started saying i was going to rip her off, i should give her all furniture etc. Demanded we sit and work out how much money they put into pur house (they paid for windows and kitchen replacement). said that any contribution was for her and if she moves out im due her it etc etc

refused to go on lease until i agreed so i told him to piss off.

Good for you Generic.

Get her out before Christmas.

How are the kids doing?

Kids are holding up ok. My eldest, who has autism has started commenting on our voice levels so guess hes tired of us yelling.

my youngest has been telling people that he doesnt get to sleep in his room anymore. be good to get him back to his room

my wife moving out next week will impact my eldest a lot. he hates change and takes weeks to adjust. kind of dreading it

Results at hospital today told WW that she's three and half weeks pregnant. That is the weekend we had sex on Saturday and I now know she was at a hotel with OM on the Friday.

So no way to know if it's mine. I have no say anyway, she is aborting. Not sure how I feel about that. Could be my son or daughter.

Too bad you can't abort your wife.

I'm sorry, man, that must be really tough!

How are you doing? Are you in IC yourself? You could really use some professional help to help you in these tough times, and perhaps even be prescribed with some pills to help you.

Are you going to the gym, or going running etc.?

Is her moving out still going to go ahead as planned? Try to not rock the boat until she moves out, so you'll gain advantage in a custody battle.

Best wishes!

Guess I'm getting trickle truth. On dday wife said she wanted to change birth control to coil because she wanted is to be more spontaneous. Also said they never did anything unprotected.

Amid this pregnancy stuff, I find out a condom split and semen went inside so they figured may as well continue unprotected.

Coil was precaution incase it happened again. Makes more sense now. Also means probably wasn't my child.

I have no say anyway, she is aborting.

Are you sure, doesn't the father have any say?

The TT from your wife is disgusting at this time, she is turning you around every which way and continues to be with the OM and live at your house.

She is out on Tuesday, I just have to keep the head until then.

Not to be insensitive here, but..

You might investigate whether DNA tests can be done on the fetus. I think you have the legal right, but you would have to have the lawyer demand it now.

It may not matter to you, but it may have an impact on any divorce settlement.

She is literally half way through an abortion. Had first pill today and gets second tomorrow. She had cheek to ask if I would come to hospital with her as they require her to have someone there

I said no, ask your boyfriend. Maybe give their relationship a dose of reality