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Kind of a 2x4 here, but this is the first thing I thought when I read about your son:

Is your son really bi-polar or is he emotionally damaged by being raised by an abusive a-hole? And is this what you want for the rest of your kids?

I hope you find the strength to get out. The sooner the better for all of you. Be careful and don't let him know. Just be gone one day when he gets home from work.

Mods - I am worried about itsovernow. She hasn't posted in almost two weeks. With the abuse in her household, is there any way we can ask local authorities to do a health check on her and her children?

I've been very worried too. I do have her phone #, but been afraid to call her. I hope she's in a safe house.

Call her anyway and if he answers, figure out how to ask for her. Say, "Is this the lady who paints furniture" or something.

She hasn't posted in some time, but she has been on the site recently. I imagine she's taking a breather.

We should probably give her that space unless she asks for our help. Just my opinion as a member

I hope she is reading and know that there are people who care about her well being.

Hugs to you!

I spoke to ION just a few days ago. She is safe and doing well.

She thanked us for our concern and is getting help.

That's good to hear, fourever.

You all are wonderful! I do thank you and yes, I needed a breather,some distance while I waited for the second set of results from the lab test. Yes, I resent it in with fire barrier on another peice of underwear and said to please compare the two. I got the results and the scientist said that they were a good match. I asked him what a "good match" means. He said in the 90% range.

Here is the problem that I'm having. We haven't been charged for the tests. I'm thinking the scientist felt bad for me. I spoke with him a couple times and emailed back and forth. I'm wondering if there is any chance he would sway the results...just saying.

As far as everything else goes, I still have anger towards my husband. I am doing more for me and discovering who I am. I need me time. I'm still not getting free time from my kids, but I'm trying very hard to find out who I am and what I want out of life.

Dh is affectionate to me and seems to be chasing me. I don't feel like I even like him.

We had dcf in the house, they determined there was no abuse and left. We are getting family counseling from two different counselors right now. One comes here the other we go to.

We go together but I'm thinking that I need to have some alone time with the counselor and just vent.

I have also been more observant of my dh and how he treats my oldest and talks about him. My oldest does have problems, but as an adult, my husband shouldn't rank on him. He is always taking digs at him to me. I'm so sick of hearing an almost 40 year old always saying mean things about a 17 y/o. It really puts me off of him. He also criticizes people a lot. Its such a put off. For instance, he'll say somthing like, "that guy looks retarded." I'm thinking, what!! Why in the world are you saying it? Are you insecure about somthing? Sheesh!

Welcome back sweetie. I change none of my previous advice/opinions.

I'm very glad to hear your are getting stronger, more self sufficient, and getting some help.

Stay on course. XXOO

The person who tested your evidence is not going to "sway" the results just because you two chatted and he MIGHT feel sorry for you.

He/she has their reputations to uphold.

Whatever their findings were, they are what they are.

k9

I feel very paranoid around dh lately. Ever since May, I just haven't felt the same. Its like I was traumatized weather it happened or not. I still do not know, most normal people don't show their wife underwear and then say how its covered in red stuff.

So last night we were just sitting around and he was talking about his upcoming birthday, that really is months away but its a big one. He's turning 40 and he was saying how he feels like I won't like him and he needs to keep in shape for me. I told him that he looks good and that age is a number. I also reminded him that I'm right behind him in age so as he's expressing disgust for turning 40, he's hurting my feelings. I asked jokingly, "what are you gonna do when I turn 40, run off with a 20 year old?" I thought his reaction to that comment/question was weird. He had no emotion and kind of circumvented the question.

Now I don't know if it was truly a weird reaction or if something was wrong.

I don't trust him and haven't felt the same since May so maybe its just me?

Well, it sounds as though he wants to look good for somebody. Too bad his inside is rotten to the core.

Hope your 'escape' plans are still in full swing.

No,it's not just you. You dont trust him because of the way he behaved about the underwear. Even though it came back that it wasn't lipstick,the things he said and did were very untrustworthy.

Your gut is still screaming.

Did you VAR the car? Heylogger on the computer? have you checked his phone and/or the online cell history?