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Good of you to say no!

Are you in counselling? Please get some professional to talk to you!

No I'm not in IC. This separation is going to be expensive, I've been well warned by lawyer. Didn't think paying £65 per session was worth while.

Stay strong Generic. What are you doing to cope with things brother?

Make sure you eat, sleep as much as you can, drink plenty of water, listen to music, scream, cry (but dont let her see you), dont let yourself get hungry man!

That condom break story is total bullshit from your wife. I know that comment doesn't help anything but I'm pissed off for you man.

I would disagree about the IC. Just as you've found an outlet here in SI, talking to a professional might be just what you need.

All this stuff we go through it's not just everyday, but literally sometimes it seeps into every second of the day, it's like poison that keeps accumulating even when you think it's not affecting you.

She keeps dragging you into her crazy, look how it affects not just you but your kids. If you can find a good IC, go for it. Get that poison out and heal.

Will need to see how money goes and how I am when she moves out.

I am detaching, trying to move on. I know week 3 is early days but her horrible actions do make detachment easier. I just need to mourn that the perfect life I thought I had has changed and now has a gaping hole in it. Now I see this side of her, I feel short changed, marrying someone I wanted to raise a family and grow old with, I got her. As soon as she got bored she went to another man, when caught showed little interest in our marriage. She either performed well at pretending to be happy over the years or she somehow something in her changed like a switch. Either way, I made a bad choice on who to start a family with.

She went from a beautiful, selfless, caring woman to a horrible bitch, selfish, no thought about how her actions effect anyone. It all seemed to happen over night.

No I'm not in IC. This separation is going to be expensive, I've been well warned by lawyer. Didn't think paying £65 per session was worth while.

You are going through an absolutely horrendous time Generic and the rollercoaster has only just begun. I'm so sorry. ((())) Although you appear to be handling it really well I agree with the other posters who suggest you don't discount the idea of some form of counselling. It may seem a lot of money but in the longer term it will be money well spent as long as you find a competent IC. If you explain your personal financial/domestic circumstances I'm pretty sure most ICs would be able to come to some arrangement with you.

Best wishes.

It's probably worth a thought. I have so much in my head and im totally dreading Christmas. my boys deserve a good day, they have been so excited. Not having her take it away.

She has been at his house since yesterday evening, not been home today and dont think she will be. Shes going through this abortion, I refused to go with her so he must've went. Now she is sitting in his cramping/bleeding awaiting the engineered miscariage. Just hope it brings home some reality to their cosy setup.

Once she moves out on Tuesday, he will probably see her three times a week, then he might get to know her. I put up with her shit because I was head over heals for her. Can't see him putting up with it so easily. Time to let it happen and let it blow up in her face. When she comes to me crying I will take silent pleasure in telling her its not my problem.

Generic,

Don't spend your time hoping that she will see the error of her ways or that a dose of real life will make her realise. This woman will battle through this JUST to make sure she doesn't lose face.

You will only see what she wants you to see.

Even if she came back snivelling and grovelling would you really be able to forgive her for the things she's done and the abuse she's dished out?

It took me a long time to realise that I could never have my wife back. She wasn't the woman I thought I had married.

She either performed well at pretending to be happy over the years or she somehow something in her changed like a switch. Either way, I made a bad choice on who to start a family with.

She went from a beautiful, selfless, caring woman to a horrible bitch, selfish, no thought about how her actions effect anyone. It all seemed to happen over night.

This is something I still struggle with and yet the end result is the same. She isn't the person you love or loved.

Although, if you work out the answer to the above I would dearly love to hear it. I'm damned if I can find the answer. I like to think she was happy when we were married but maybe she wasn't. She sure did a good job of acting happy. She's proven to be an effective liar so it's entirely possible.

Even if she came back snivelling and grovelling would you really be able to forgive her for the things she's done and the abuse she's dished out?

Generic

Read what Allatsea just wrote to you. You miss the stability of what your marriage was. This monster that is leaving your house todayis not that person, as others have told you.

Do you really think you could forget all of this like it did not happen.???

Time will help you. Just make sure you detach and you will survive. Everyone communicating with you has or is.