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Jsmart ( member #56437) posted at 6:17 PM on Thursday, February 7th, 2019
Her parents are going to defend her and will believe her lies. Both their response and that she's been in contact with OM all this time shouldn't surprise you. I'd bet that not only has she never stopped seeing him in person but that her parents have also spoken to him.
This guy is going to permanently be in their lives. Whether legally, as a future son-in-law or as a baby daddy, he will be in their lives. That's why I said you
need to start stealing yourself. It's going to hurt when they start accepting him and turning on you.
BTW stop telegraphing your punches. It's way more effective when a legal notice is given without a warning. Any response you get from her is an act of self pity. There's no real remorse for the now very public way she disrespected you. Remember that this woman is not your friend. She hasn't been for a long time.
Think about how many times she turned down your advances in the past year and a half. You accepted it as her being tired from work and dealing with your son, when in reality it was her being loyal to her boyfriend. Let that strengthen your resolve to move forward with severing the emotional ties you still have because your loving feelings for her are not going to be sincerely returned.
Bigheart2018 ( member #63544) posted at 6:26 PM on Thursday, February 7th, 2019
Dear Director,
It is my opinion; your wife had already planned on moving in with her AP. Remember what you posted earlier of your wife reason on how the affair started. If I’m not mistaking, she was going to his new home in helping him decorated it. In reality, she was decorating future home. Her constant communication wasn’t a mean to prevent him from harming himself but a continuation of planning for the future.
This is just a possibility to consider.
Best,
Bigheart
Robert22205https ( member #65547) posted at 6:26 PM on Thursday, February 7th, 2019
Be polite and civil to her parents but know they will always ultimately side with her. Plus they will say and do anything to encourage R.
IMO she will eventually marry the OM (parents plan b) and he will work for her dad. They will create a cover story that minimizes and rugsweeps what the OM and your WW did.
Jsmart ( member #56437) posted at 6:37 PM on Thursday, February 7th, 2019
t is my opinion; your wife had already planned on moving in with her AP. Remember what you posted earlier of your wife reason on how the affair started. If I’m not mistaking, she was going to his new home in helping him decorated it. In reality, she was decorating future home. Her constant communication wasn’t a mean to prevent him from harming himself but a continuation of planning for the future.
This is just a possibility to consider.
That's what I think too. To be honest, I don't think her pregnancy was an accident. All those late night calls, sexually cutting Director off, and most damning, her decorating his place were all part of the nesting. It's just her parents reaction that got her unhinged but they'll come around.
Her giving Director filled out D papers and offering full custody of their son multiple times was just her preparing the way for her new family.
Sknippen ( member #59211) posted at 1:26 PM on Friday, February 8th, 2019
What is really odd that she is trying to get pregnant from you're second child and in the meanwhile doesn't use protection with her Affair partner. As a grown adult woman she should know that there is a big chance she would get pregnant from her AP. So i would think she did this on purpose. Otherwhise she would be more carefull and used protection.
redbaron007 ( member #50144) posted at 7:03 AM on Tuesday, February 12th, 2019
Just filed.
Sense of relief has overcome me knowing I am beginning to work my way away from her.
I promise you this: You will NEVER, EVER REGRET divorcing a cheater. There is not a single BH on this site or any other that has regretted divorcing a cheating wife.
Things will only look up for you. Good luck!
Me: BS (44)
She: WS (41)
One son (6)
DDay: May 2015 (OBS told me)
Divorced, Zero regrets, sound sleep, son doing great!
A FOG is just a weather phenomenon. An Affair Fog is a clever excuse invented by WS's to explain their continued bad behavior.
imwideawake ( member #23386) posted at 1:03 PM on Tuesday, February 12th, 2019
Director, how are you doing? Been thinking about you and your son.
[This message edited by imwideawake at 7:04 AM, February 12th (Tuesday)]
Together 21 years.
Married 19
Me: BW
Him XWH
dday 9/08
3 daughters, now grown
Divorced 12/04/12
Unbroken78 ( member #68860) posted at 9:26 PM on Wednesday, February 13th, 2019
I promise you this: You will NEVER, EVER REGRET divorcing a cheater. There is not a single BH on this site or any other that has regretted divorcing a cheating wife.
Things will only look up for you. Good luck!
Red is spot on with this.
I know there are a ton of guys who seek to build the R concept up, possibly to validate their own choices and suffering, but I have to say that Red nailed it with the above.
In my career field, I see a lot of folks get into marriage problems. 100% of the guys I know who rapidly D'd a cheater, are happy in the end. Of those who R'd...a large # have massive emotional problems, years later...and a couple ended up dead, from health issues or suicide.
Do what's best for you...but IMO, you are never wrong to D a cheater.
director23 (original poster member #69430) posted at 3:37 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2019
https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=635561&HL=69430
Thread moving forward
BS (me) 32 Year Marriage 1.5 Year affair that led to birth of a child.
D-Day 1/2019
Divorced 7/2019
Engaged 10/21 new woman
Married 10/22
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