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I read the book while I was still M. And then when all the Inf / D / S shit hit the fan I re-read it. And I just saw the movie tonight with my mom.

I like the book and the movie. I'm not a big Julia fan but she was fine in this role.

I enjoyed watching a movie about a woman going on her own adventure, taking a break to allow her brain room after being in relationship after realtionship. And I related so much to all the pain and difficulty there is in actually having time and space to be with yourself when you are at the nadir of your life.

sure she was self absorbed because she was healing and it was a memoir type book. she also contributed to communal life in the ashram by scrubbing floors, and she helped buy a house for the Balinese healer. So while she was working on her stuff she also did caring things for others.

I never got the sense that she was a WS either from book or movie. She did bail on her marriage.

I liked the way the movie tried to depict the process of forgiving yourself and letting go of others in the past you loved but can't be with.

I liked how she identified the core truth as 'God dwells within you as you' which tied her initial conversation with God as if he is someone out there to - as she progresses - the real sense that the kingdom of God is within.

So few movies handle these type of themes that I found it refreshing. And I related to her story so much even tho I haven't traveled physically as I healed like she did.

I read the book a couple of years ago. Liked it but didn't love love it.

Just saw the movie and feel kind of sad. Perhaps jealous.

That after less than a year she winds up with some gorgeous sensitive man. And 4 years later I don't feel anywhere ready for a gorgeous sensitive man. Or a cute sensitive one... And sad that it had to end with a man too. Like that completes it.

To me, a year is still so quick. She was alone less than a year evidently. That's not much time. I guess she wasn't really putting her self back together from infidelity though. Just a general malaise and discomfort from a that evidently felt empty for her--but was so privledged. (sp) And then she went on to find wholeness through privledge...

To each their own. My take on the book is that she was (maybe still is) at a very self centric, perhaps even narcissistic phase of being. I love to travel, and did after I found out about the infidelity... and did the Italy thing, and SE Asia thing too. But my travels included my kids for part of it: really wanting to show them what was important to me in the world (art, good food, other cultures, foreign languages and our family back ground). Kind of a different focus. In truth, I felt like she was young, and going through her own stuff, that I went through well before I was married. So, it was kind of difficult to relate.

Ironic though that OW gave it to my (now ex) husband, to give to me (I had all ready read the book at that point). Do not, and did not, know what to make of that gesture.

Ironic though that OW gave it to my (now ex) husband, to give to me (I had all ready read the book at that point). Do not, and did not, know what to make of that gesture.

Eeeeks! That's a yucky gesture. I have ideas about the msg but don't want to dignify it with another thought!

Someone's sig line comes to mind: "You can lead a horiticulture but you can't make her think"

I loved this book. Found it inspirational and calming. I want to go and live in Bali and sit on the porch with Ketut and ride a bike quietly through the lush, beautiful landscape and live in that house with Felipe....