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Unfortunately, my FWH's OW's résumé looks like this. She's actually something of a paragon:

1. Smart (except for the A)

2. Extremely well-organized

3. Excellent multi-tasker

4. Involved in community; even got an Excellence award.

5. Excellent mother--her kids are delightful, and she's very devoted to them.

6. Involved in church activities (although does not seem to have deep spirituality)

7. Will help anyone in need; generous with time

8. Is pretty

9. Is a gracious hostess

10. Is workplace-savvy, gives excellent advice

Sigh. She does have some negative qualities, especially as shown through e-mails to FWH:

1. In spite of all the good things above, which makes it seem as though she's really together, she's angry all the time (about work, relationship with her H, you name it), complains and rants constantly

2. She does things for people unasked, then gets pissed if people do not bow down and kiss her feet in gratitude

3. She is extremely needy, emotionally, something I would never have guessed if I hadn't read the e-mails

4. She is a liar and a cheat, as evidenced by the A. Not just to her BH, but to her employer: on days she was allegedly "working at home", she was off meeting my WH for hook-ups.

*Successful young professional

*Very attractive

*Her FB shows her to be well-liked

I WISH! That might have made any of it make sense- if he actually thought he might be happier with some other respectable person- and may have allowed me to keep SOME self-esteem! But, in his words, that would have been cheating!

OK- here goes... for a couple...

-Stripper

-Different than the rest- nicer, stuck in a bad profession to feed her child.

-Abusive boyfriend

-A litter of illegitimate kids- only one with her. I believe 5 with either baby's daddys or baby-daddy's parents.

-Looking for someone to pay her bills and take her out to dinner and dancing.

OW2

Same as above, but in the child department- Pregnant toward end of 3+ year GFE... left strip club to have baby, but kept in touch with H (and likely other customers) for future business.

OW3

-Long time stripper looking for some nice man to take her away and support her. Abusive bf's...

I guess eventually it made sense, since these (the key players), and the others (the illicit "friends") were all in the same boat- strippers who were full of troubles and looking for that nice, smart, rich man to help them out. Eventually he could see that he fancied himself to a KISA, coupled with FOO issues regarding his self-esteem, and there ya go- another recipe for affairs.

Twice divorced before the age of 36.

In the 2 yrs since her divorce, she couldnt find a suitable partner...except my married husband who's wife was then pregnant.

With both husbands, she was married under 5 yrs. The second, tho she was with him ten years, they were married only one (the last year). She had promised the guy a child and then reniged. She never wanted kids (she prefers her freedom), which imo if you dont want kids, dont have kids. Just dont tell your partner you will give him one then months later when he is expecting a pregnancy tell him no, youve been on the pill.

A marriage councelar. She would tell my husband to take me out, buy me birthday and xmas gifts....(but he wasnt allowed to sleep with me).

She is very helpful. She paid for the moving van and helped wh and his family move us into our home (i was at the end of a 6 wk stint in the hospital). She even put together my kitchen (did a horrible job...doesnt know how to organize a kitchen).

Helpful in she would print off disability forms from her work computer for me to apply (she said I lied about my job not paying into disability. She used to work for the state of new jersey so you would have thought she had a clue...i think she was released from that job so maybe she didnt have a clue).

She was so helpful she would use her computer at work to design and print off flyers for wh's yard work side business.

She loved my kids so much she bought them clothes and gifts until she found out I put them in the trash.

She was very giving to his friends and family. She had them over often. She even lied and said one of wh illegal friends worked for her so said friend could have health insurance.

She escourted wh on the plane to his native costa rica and helped him earn membership in the mile high club.

She could almost keep up with wh in beer drinking.

White girl did research in how to become latina. Guess she loved studying.

Amature porno ho. She filmed many videos and took many photos of herself in adult mannerism.

She is very understanding. She sent him a video saying she understood how awful it must be to be home alone sick (the kids and I were there with him. I was taking care of him).

She is an academy award winning liar. Not an exaggeration.

-Had two abortions between high school and college-one was with stbxwh when they dated in college (I don't judge but bring this up because I struggled with infertility, was only able to have one child and lost another)

-Married an abusive cop and had two kids. Her crazy ex kidnapped the kids. She ran from him. Found out after d day she had called my h to see if he was available to support her during that time. He said no, he was engaged

-She remarries a nice guy who adopted her kids. They had a kid together.

-She is bored with nice guy. Friends stbxwh on FB. Complains nice guy does not understand her or send her cards

-She exaggerates a small kidney

procedure to get stbxwh to come see her

-EA ended they are no contact

-She separated from nice guy. Not sure why but I can only imagine.

She has tons of friends and spends her days gossiping.

Threatened my husband to expose him as the cheater he was.

This wasn't her first rodeo.

Her wardrobe consists of mom jeans and sweat shirts.

She has dirty fingernails and that is what she does for a living.

Drinks every night a bottle of wine.

Cheats with her friends husbands!

A real peach!

[This message edited by Deanna at 8:33 PM, February 3rd (Sunday)]

.. @ SadFlower..

holy crap!!!.. i started reading your Top 10 list and thought you were describing 'my' fWW..

..if you had added

*excellent cook/baker

*seamstress

*plays piano and cello

* sings in the church choir

..amazing, to say the least!

..as for your second list, she only qualifies for #4..

phoned in sick.. went 'Downtown'..to meet bfOM at his law office..

..if i called home, and no answer, she'd tell me she had been sleeping or if the phone was 'busy' ..she had taken it off the hook..so she could sleep,,????

..covered her tracks really well for 18 years..

as for her AP, and my (never was) bfOM

*Boy Scout/Queen's Scout

*smart

*U of T graduate

*U of W.O. Law/Osgoode Hall

*very charming

*arrogant

*narcissistic

*selfish

*persuasive

*relentless

*persistent

*willing to stab naive and trusting friend(s) in the back..

*willing to forfeit his loyalty, honour, integrity, trust, personal and professional ethics, friendship and love..

*willing to sell his soul to the Devil

*willing to commit adultery

*willing to covet another man's wife

..oh, almost forgot.. *an excellent liar!

Favorite saying: "I can't wait until tomorrow...cuz I get better looking every day!"

..

..i can't imagine what all my wife's professional colleages, parents and students would think if they had to learn the truth behind the image..

..smy

Ok so let's see about my OW.

Broken inside is def. the case here. Sick...

Her parents divorced when she was really young, went to live with her father, and her father's OW - the one that broke her parent's marriage.

Step-mom (OW) -treated her like crap.

Biological Mom - supposed to pick her up on weekends - but never did.

Left Home at 16, to live with boyfriend.

Married at 21 - started cheating with my WH. within 6 months of marriage!

Fired from job (I think because someone saw them at work) guess my WH was more valuable than her - someone had to go.

Her BS, still doesn't know about 3yr PA, thinks its only EA, and that my WS was only one pursuing her. Yeah... because she was forced to drive to 45 min to my house, and eat my food and hang out with us, then go Fuck him, when he had "a work call" !!!

LIAR, CHEATER, SLUT...

I want to play:

1. High School teacher

2. Started blogging on ivillage and bragged about the household items she stuck up her va-jay-jay, including a stapler and baseball bat.

3. Left her young diabetic son with his sister for her hookups.

4. Progressed to blogging on AFF where she posts pix of her droopy boobs.

5. Posts webcams of herself masturbating on AFF. (Did I mention she's a teacher?)

6. Has zero sense of humor.

7. H wasn't her first affair.

8. Used "xoxo" on everything. Obviously thinks she's 12 instead of 55.

9. Recently joined facebook and spelt her last name backwards.

10. Has 12 "friends" - all are relatives.

11. Unattractive, fat ass, cankled beast.

Damn, that was fun!!

Me too!!!

1. Sexually abused by her father

2. Lives with her mother

3. Got pregnant after a one night stand and decided to keep it

4. Took father of child to court to get support

5. When father of child demanded visiting rights, she accused him of sexual activity with child, refused to let child visit, and took him back to court to get sole custody. She lost her case.

My WSO is so lucky he didn't her pregnant!

I've seen so many threads where the BS simply cannot see the brokenness of the WS and the morally ineptness of the AP.

It's so easy to fixate on the looks, the line of work, the degree, etc... of the Affair Partner.

In order to cheat, the WS has to find someone of the same moral and ethical brokenness to cheat with them.

The mirror reflects perfectly in the world of infidelity. What the see in themselves, is what they see in their AP.

A CHEATER...

Here goes:

1. 20 years younger than wh

2. 10 years younger than me

3. physically built

4. engaged

5. "poor me" attitude that only wh could talk to her about

6. work together and if you knew the professions, it is the butt of many jokes

7. drinks and loves to post pix online of her holding her booze

8. poor fiance just doesn't understand her the way my dh did

Eh - I'm sure she's a lovely person .... at least her facebook page is filled with accolades