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What does that mean myrev I actually get more response on here and lately have posted more on here there seems to be a stigma against people who are getting the D quickly But in my case I have been advised to by pastors friends family even inlaws I feel like a failure and like I'm giving up but I don't have a choice I want my children and to try to keep my home I admit this is all new but I'm trying to learn what to do in this terrible situation/nightmare that won't ever end regardless of outcome!

I think you've misunderstood ... I actually support your D. I just think you're underestimating your WW, and being encouraged in your softness towards her to try to get you to save something that shouldn't be saved.

Check your PM's.

[This message edited by MyRevelation at 6:55 PM, March 21st (Thursday)]

I know it may not be saved but I won't give up hope and I know I must let go open the cage I'm being nice to bide my time til my D is final then I'm going minimal contact as minimal as I can with children involved I appreciate your input

I too feel you have misunderstood some of the advice you have been given here...

D that woman now. If she removes her head from her ass by all means remarry her at some later date.

Here's my advice for what it's worth... Once you are D stay as far away from her as you possibly can and detach. When her relationship with OM goes to shit, and it will, DO NOT be shocked if she has zero desire to re-enter into a relationship with you. Even if she makes a half assed attempt at giving another go at it, do not be suprised if it is a half hearted effort in which she throws in the towel because many of these cheaters cannot and will not own their own shit.

All of this is fallout from her A and brokeness, and the more you fall for this crap ='s more pain for you. Horrid pain. Pain as bad or worse than the crap thus far.

If you can sucessfully detach over time you wil quite possibly, I think most probably, realize that getting her out of your life is one of the BEST things that ever happened to you.

Lots of us have been exactly where you are. Even years later we post here to help with this agonizing bullshit, or at least try to.

Get busey detaching.

By the way, fighting for and keeping my house proved to be the best move I ever made. It was very tough and worth it. I really feel for all of those here that didn't work out for.

There are a few times in life when you are supposed to be an asshole....When at war, when someone messes with your children, when you are going through D. It is time for you to amp up asswhole.

She has.