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FAY PLEASE LISTEN TO ALL HERE_____DO NOT TELL HIM HOW YOU ARE GOING TO PROTECT YOURSELF_____HE IS LYING TO YOU___TELLLS YOU WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR_______WHERE IS THE MONEY___NEVER MIND ABOUT THE AFFAIRS___DO YOU REALLY THINK HE IS GOING TO STOP___OF COURSE HE IS GOING TO SAY NO____DO NOT SAY ANYMORE UNTIL YOU SEE THE $$$$$ AND YOU CAN USE IT___PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE JUST CONCENTRATE ON THAT____TELL HIM 1-THE MONEY BACK IN THE ACCOUNT-2-I AM LEAVING SINCE YOU DO NOT WANT ME AND YOU WANT YOUR GIRLFRIEND------HE IS GOING TO PROMISE YOU THE STARS AND THAT IS YOUR CARD RIGHT THERE____AFTER YOU HAVE ACCESS TO THE $$$ THEN DO THE REST_____LAWYER<DOCTOR____PLEASE LISTEN YOU ARE IN DANGER FROM THAT DICK HEAD____YOU SAY YOU love him but how can you love a man who has such little respect for you and your well being----not having sex with you should tell you what type of abuser he is-----he likes young girls---be careful you have daughters----BE ALERT AND DO NOT LEAVE YOUR GIRLS ALONE WITH HIM

I feel like I'm having a breakdown but at least I didn't cry in front of him.

Sounds like you are doing exactly like you should. Do whatever you have to do to hold in your emotions around him. Then when you leave let them go...whether it's in the car, the basement or in a treehouse. Drive out to an empty country road and let it out there if you have to. But NEVER in front of him. You want to go dark on him emotionally. Believe me he will respect you very quickly.

As you can see staying cool and calm is causing him to probably panic more than you know. Sounds like he's sending you texts, but you didn't say what they involved. Continue to act detached, like you are calmly scolding a 7th grader to clean his room or he loses his XBox privleges. But don't raise your voice. Hopefully you will see him begin to emerge from this fog when he becomes the one to see what he's losing.

And keep repeating this to yourself..."I must be willing to lose this in order to save this."