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ITA with most here, he is a liar. My take is he is a liar to avoid conlfict. If I don't say it or if I deny it - it doesn't exist. This is not a good trait for any mate.

Now that being said: Sorry this is harsh but

SO just sent me a text asking "what are we doing? I asked him what does he mean? Then he said you are still upset anout me buying my son a car? I told him i was upset bc he never told me he was buying his son a car.....guess what he had the nerve to say???? If you felt differnt about him i would have told you.....WTH??? I told him i knew he would say that....then i said we need to talk face to face....i'm sooo done...

You were so wrong to say anything about his son - WRONG WRONG WRONG!! Whether he was his son or not he accepted him along time ago. You had no right to voice any opinion other than "Gee I don't know if he looks like you - what do you think?"

If I want to give my son every dime I have that is MY business. The same applies to my SO. Hell his son have him thrown in jail, dragged him through court for a year, cut off contact, bad mouthed him all over town while under the evil exes spell. Well guess what when he siad he was gonna reach out to him I supported him, I HATED IT!! But that is his son, his child, the one he held as a baby, kissed booboos. When you say something about a persons child it is a bell you cannot unring.

idkam - This may sound harsh but, you really don't sound emotionally ready for another relationship. You've ignored big red flags and it sounds like you don't really have self confidence or self-respect right now. The worried about struggling etc sounds like excuses and like you don't value yourself enough. You DO deserve better, but it doesn't sound like you believe that. And you need to work out why you're letting him treat you like this, rather than getting out.

^^^this...without a doubt.

I don't know how many times people warned you about this guy and each and every time you ignored everything people told you and made excuses for him. You were determined to stay in this unhealthy relationship. Now is the time for you to get the necessary help to figure out why.

Undecided: i know i was wrong for saying that about his son... WE have joked about it in the past but ithis time it bad timing on my part..... I cant apologize enough about that....i cannot change what happened...

Lieshurt; people are so quick to say leave get out without knowing a persons circumstances... I stayed with him because i needed too... I was in school and not want lose focus but now thats behind me i can focus on the relationship....

Thanks for your input i really appreciate it...

Mmmmm! He took my computer to wirk with him i'm thinking he put a spyware on it or he's trying to figure out how i found out about his son.....

How do i chk to see if he put anything on my computer?

id - I hear you unfortunately it is what it is. You may laugh about but I am sure inside he is still very bitter.

Now that being said(LOLing I am actually using that platitude):

That was your only wrong. He is so broken, and he is breaking you. Please don't let him do that. I do understand money. I left my son's father with nothing, clothes on my back. You can do this. I do think you may need to be alone awhile, do you for now.

Undecided: yes i believe i should be alone for a while... I met my SO 2 years after my divorce and i was dating other guys here and there too...

We kind of talked last night about us.... Of course he threw in my face about if i liked his son he would have told me everything and i told him that he told me a lie instead..... I told him i dont know why i said that about your son but i do like him but this isnt about whether or not i like J... This is about us and our relationship and how you do not include me in your decision making... I said to him im just a girlfriend to him im not a partner.... If i was a partner he would tell me whats going on in his life.. I also told him tht he's so worried about how i will respond that he chooses to hide and lie about things... Then he says you dont trust me and i said NO i do not trust you how could i trust you?...i mentioned to him about his failure to give me a copy of the investmnt statement ...he did not respond...then i said you've been lying to me ever since we met...he didnt say anything to me the rest of the night....

Oh well...

Well well well, i just checked my personal email and wnt back to 2010.., why 2010?...well bc i remembered a dissgreement he and i had about a convo he had with a female on FB... Guess hjo the female is?? yes you guessed it the same girl he pd the ticket for.... busted...

FTG!!!

SO just sent me a text telling me he misses talking to me... He want to hear about my day at work and the gym...

I didn't get approved for the refinance loan.. I was told the rate i have 3.6 is a very good one....

I would like to trade my car in (2013 Hyundai Genisis)so my payments will be lowered i wish i knew where to go....

Oh i forgot to say i haven't responded to his text...