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Well, I'll be damned. Another fun side benefit for having been cheated on. I've got the WH with the most inappropriate age difference with AP. A win in the cradle robber category. Woo-hoo!

H was 51-52 and OW was 31. Just last week I had to see her-long story short, she works for my H, I am there frequently and talk to everyone as they are all him employees. Last week a group of them were outside talking, waiting for the end of their shift. I walk by, can't be rude, so go over to say hi to everyone out there-and of course OW was there... A mutual friend in the group and I were commenting on turning 50 last year and how it wasn't fun. The OW stated she couldn't believe I was 50 (actually I'm 51-but simple math is above her) She stated she hoped to look as half as good as me when she was 50 (sucking up, or realizing that she will never look half as good as me) But her craziest comment was why was turning 50 so hard? My response (again I'm in a group with a bunch of people who work for my H and do not know of their relationship) Well "OW" May and June of last year wasn't a stellar time for me. That I think she got.

H was 51-52 and OW was 31. Just last week I had to see her-long story short, she works for my H, I am there frequently and talk to everyone as they are all his employees. Last week a group of them were outside talking, waiting for the end of their shift. I walk by, can't be rude, so go over to say hi to everyone out there-and of course OW was there... A mutual friend in the group and I were commenting on turning 50 last year and how it wasn't fun. The OW stated she couldn't believe I was 50 (actually I'm 51-but simple math is above her) She stated she hoped to look as half as good as me when she was 50 (sucking up, or realizing that she will never look half as good as me) But her craziest comment was why was turning 50 so hard? My response (again I'm in a group with a bunch of people who work for my H and do not know of their relationship) Well "OW" May and June of last year wasn't a stellar time for me. That I think she got.

[This message edited by knolls at 9:17 PM, August 3rd (Sunday)]

WH was 30, his AP had just turned 18 when they started. I still think of her as a child.

She is 20 years younger. Hot stuff, born the year before we married. She thinks she is wise and has lived life so she can spread her wisdom to the ignorant around her so we can be fulfilled in our lives as she is fulfilled in hers. I would really like to fill her in someday.

H was 40 (cliché) she was 29. The strange thing is I was 35 so not that much younger than me. I take comfort in the fact she looks older and that it wasn't her age that attracted him. She was just the only female in a male environment.

Who knows though maybe her age did play part. The night of their ONS he was acting all cocky before he went out and I said my usual, have fun, be good and no perving on the young girls. Usually he would say of course not and laugh. this time he said - no harm in looking - yuk!

He did say once he thought he was 'safe' to muck around flirting with her cos surely she wouldn't be interested in an older man.

Yeah right!

50 and 27 at the time. 23 yr difference.

That was another thing that creeped me out. But obviously from all these posts and others it seems too common.

Got me good it sounds like our stories are identical. My WH60 couldn't get an erection wither with his supposedly 25 year old prostitute and went the Blowjob route too. He tried for almost 2 years to find someone on Ashley Madison but didn't get any interest! Finally had to purchase a body to make himself feel good. he still seems to not get the fact that she only was there for money. How delusional is that-- thinking a prostitute is genuinely attracted to you ?

My wife was 32 when I found out and AP was 54 years old. It disgusts me to even write what I just did. It was a damn good deal for him but the other way around and it makes me want to throw up.

This is the most disgusting aspect of the A for me. It is a huge roadblock to R because my WH refuses to face his dysfunction.

At the time of the A my WH was 70 and the AP was 25 -15

years younger than his daughter. We had been married 4 years when the AP was born.

This is why my gut screams that he had hired prostitutes prior to the A.

My XWH cheated with someone much younger, then went on to marry another woman even younger than her.

Just reading everyone's numbers here, and then the thoughts and comments regarding the age differences...I think it's safe to say there is truth that an A isn't about the AP, but more so about the idiot having the A. It could have been anyone.

Sadly, many young women today seem to have less self respect and make it far easier to "catch" them, than us "older" women. I know I for one would NEVER be stupid enough to fall for the "my wife and I live like roommates, and all she does all day is bitch and spend my money" bs.

To be honest, I'm not threatened by those younger women. The only reason an older man goes for them is because they were easy. A cheating man couldn't get me even with a stacked wallet, a jumbo sausage, and promises of forever. Why? Because this old lady has CLASS and INTEGRITY. Something they aren't worthy of, and sadly many young women today haven't be taught.

***One more thought, my XWH is miserable and stuck with his young wife. She hates that he has children with me, and makes his life pure hell. I want to laugh, except my children deserve better than to ever feel they aren't wanted by a step parent. What a dumbass he is, and a classless POS she is***

[This message edited by TrulySad at 11:27 AM, August 4th (Monday)]

I can't put my head around being with someone 20 years younger than me, that means they'd be 18

For my WH not only was there the huge age gap but they have absolutely nothing in common, politically they are opposite, religiously opposite, he loathes country music she loves it, tv shows, books, etc.

XSO (55) married ow (28) this year.

While he was deep into the affair, he was counseling my DD(then 21) about how she shouldn't date a guy 4 years older than her. OW was 5 years older than my oldest and 1/2 his age. His WW was 4 years younger than him, those were the examples he was using to justify his position to DD. That was 2 years ago.

The creep factor is HUGE.

K

But the media always pairs middle aged men with young hot women.

While that may be true, most of the middle-aged men with these young hotties are either very handsome and charasmatic OR they're loaded (and it's usually more the latter - they're loaded). And then there are some young women who have serious 'daddy' issues and purposely seek out middle-aged men. Blech.

But your average, everyday frumpy 50 year old balding plumber - with a beer belly and hair on his back - is probably NOT finding it necessary to beat the young 20-somethings off with a stick.

My mother was 21 years older than me.

When I was 21/22, she started dating a guy who was 3-5 years older than ME (been a long time, can't remember exact difference). Fwiw, I thought it was disgusting and gross. (however, I did meet him once and he looked much, much older than his chronological age.....turns out they met in rehab, so I guess he'd lived his life pretty hard, and it definitely showed.)

I have no idea about Monster's OW's. The ones I know about didn't skew too eye-rollingly young and his LTA was actually 12 years older than him (more in his mom's age range than his own. Yuck.)

Sadly this wanting a younger affair partner, particularly just for a sexual relationship, applies to both MARRIED men and women.

IMO, it is as if looking at a younger affair partner is a magic mirror that makes them feel young again.

The OW in my situation was 18 years younger, than I am, and 20 years younger than my wayward.

She definitely had daddy issues and was also looking for what they call in "men's magazine" "a bigger better deal".

In Men's magazine they advise men to run from the type of woman who is always on the lookout for what they describe as the "bigger better deal."

For some reason she thought my husband had more money than hers did. Not true, but just what she believed. I guess because he spent a lot of money on her.

She also was a serial cheater, and a self described cougar, who had also dated boys 18 years younger than she is.

She did not want to marry them, though. She was only looking to dump her same-age spouse for an older man with a lot more money.

The younger guys were for boinking only.

My wayward jokes that if we want her to stop stalking us, all he need do is show her our dept to disposable income ratio....and she would run like heck.

I am in this boat too. WH was 40. Only *1* of the many OW is close in age. The others range in age from 20 to 30ish.

Great!

Now I feel like I need to soak in bleach.

This might make you laugh a bit: when I was sleuthing around on the internet to find out about 64 yr old WH's 20 yr old prostitute, I found an additional ad that "it" put up on a site called 'Looking for a SugarDaddy". There I found WH's cumdumpster trolling for a man to support her in return for constant hot sex and blowjobs. This prostitute was a bit selective though....it wrote that it was looking for a SugarDaddy between the ages of 27 - 57. My WH was 64 when he hired it for intercourse, but without enough of an erection, he had to settle for a BJ. When I found its new ad on the internet (he found the whore on Independent Girls) I could hardly wait to show it to WH and ask him if he thought his inability to perform had anything to do with the age preferences noted by the whore. And then I laughed at him.

He was 44, she was 23.

I am43.

She prefers married men, or men involved in long term relationships.

Less trouble maintaining relationship on her part.

Prefers, more than one man on the go too.

SERIOUS ISSUES

And, yet. He fell for her. And even knew she was diseased. But, went in there with out a condom anyhow

And, we were going thru infertility treatments…He was involved with her, as we drove 10hours..to the fertility clinic…to be "impregnated".

He got her pregnant, three weeks later. Natural.

Sick. I am just so sick….why isn't he? She?

[This message edited by Littleleaf at 2:19 AM, August 8th (Friday)]

He is 47, she is 27. He is very handsome and in a position of authority/esteem. She's actually not attractive at all--I don't have heaps of self-confidence, but I saw a picture of her and thought, "What??? That's pathetic! She's 13 years younger than me and I look better than she does."

Our oldest child is only 8, so at least I don't have the ick factor of proximity in age to one of our children--even though he certainly COULD have a child her age.

Mid-life crisis was definitely part of it, but also, I think, a traumatic childhood has left him very insecure and he LOVES the adulation of younger women. I'm kind of surprised she wasn't even younger, actually.

Although she is not very attractive, there is the simple physiological fact that I have given birth to two children and she has not, and I know that he took pleasure in the difference that made.