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roseyposey (original poster member #44693) posted at 2:15 PM on Friday, September 5th, 2014
Moment - I have and spousal support/alimony does not apply in our situation. I may end up paying child support depending on how custody shakes out.
Me - loving my new life
D final 6/11/2015
k94ever ( member #11176) posted at 7:31 PM on Friday, September 5th, 2014
What???????
If you two divorce....how can YOU end up paying Child Support for his bastard child?
k9
BS:61
WS: 53
Betrayed: 24 years
Affairs: 15 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 7:49 PM on Friday, September 5th, 2014
If you two divorce....how can YOU end up paying Child Support for his bastard child?
I took it as she meant she may end up paying CS for their children together (given the 50/50 custody and her making more).
Edited (hit done too soon).
I am proud of you Rosey. Has painful as it is, you are able to look at all angles and hear that he is telling you that he is unhappy and not sure he wants to try at this point.
It is hard to hear that, but you can't fix it alone.
I think reading the 180 will help you tremendously during this phase of trying to detach.
[hugs]
[This message edited by EvenKeel at 1:53 PM, September 5th (Friday)]
roseyposey (original poster member #44693) posted at 8:55 PM on Friday, September 5th, 2014
Even - thanks for the kind words. It's fucking hard. I see my new IC on Tuesday and I'm looking forward to it. (Also correct re: CS I will probably end up paying something to him for our kids)
Each day it sinks in a little more that even if I could make him stay physically it wouldn't matter because he's not all in on reconciliation. He is doing some things but it's not enough and that just is what it is. My head has known this whole time that he needs to go. My heart just fucking breaks every time I think about it.
It's still two steps forward one step back right now but I'm still moving forward.
Me - loving my new life
D final 6/11/2015
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