Leeleelu ( new member #87698) posted at 12:33 AM on Thursday, September 24th, 2026
Yes, people can definitely change , but not in 3 weeks time. I agree with the advice about detaching a bit. You need to be the star of the show , pour into yourself… focus less on him and what he says and does and more on what you need. It’s ok to have those long conversations but understand that they won’t resolve what happened - you need time to see if he consistently changes and not just a bandaid that he’s applying right after the fact. I’m curious about why the relationship had issues "because of you" in the first few years ? Either way , as you said "He had a million healthier choices he could have made and he chose the one and only decision that destroys the very relationship he doesn't want to lose. ". Remember this .
