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need_hope ( member #23989) posted at 7:27 PM on Friday, September 3rd, 2010
I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Me - happily engaged to a wonderful man
XWS - no longer matters
Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic.
Don't fuck with me, I fuck back.
Devestatedx5 ( member #16557) posted at 7:55 PM on Friday, September 3rd, 2010
(((Uni & family)))
It wasn't too long ago that YOU reached out and touched/healed me in such a loving manner by your wise words. Unfortunately, I can not return that gift with words - I have none.
I am SO sorry for your loss. So very, very terribly sorry. Please know that you and your family will remain in my prayers for many, many months - or more if needed.
I wish I were there with you to hold you and comfort you.
(((Unicornsearcher)))
FBS-me (49)
FWH(57) ONS 8.19.07
Dday: 9.19.07
Married +26 years
RE-MARRIED 4.28.11
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Proverbs 31:10-31
Sometimes people are SO open-minded that that their brains fall out.
ooie32 ( member #8072) posted at 8:00 PM on Friday, September 3rd, 2010
i am so sorry for your loss. you are being lifted up before the throne of Grace.
moving forward to ardent hope...
Aunt Fannie ( member #5992) posted at 10:34 PM on Friday, September 3rd, 2010
(((Uni))),
You've helped so many SI'ers; just last week you called to check-up on me. You've been helping me since 2004!
I'm stunned and hurt for you & your family. I'm thankful you were by the side of your 32-year old daughter. I hope your presence gave her relief and courage. I hope that all the prayers and compassionate thoughts sent by SI’ers helped you some and will help you in the weeks and months ahead.
My FWH also sends his sincere condolences to you and your family.
(((HUGS))), Aunt Fannie 
On 1st D-Day 2004: Me-BW 56+; him-WH 58+; md. 32; 1 grown child
D-Day 12 Apr 2004; gentle confrontation on 20 June 2004 denied PA w/ MOW 27 yrs. younger
2nd D-day - 5 Nov 2009 w/ same Gold Digger 3-years underground; filed Feb. 2010 then delayed.
SerJR ( member #14993) posted at 11:05 PM on Friday, September 3rd, 2010
I'm so sorry...
There's nothing fair about this...
Please know that I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts.
Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.
usedup ( member #11701) posted at 11:24 PM on Friday, September 3rd, 2010
(((Uni and family)))
we are lifting your family in prayer and sending much love your way. I can't find words to express
Fireball72 ( member #20152) posted at 12:15 AM on Saturday, September 4th, 2010
(((Uni)))
"Death leaves a heartache that no one can heal,
But love leaves memories that no one can steal." - Found on a headstone in a cemetery in Ireland
Peace to you and yours during this difficult time. 
BS (me):44 (now 52) WS (him):42 (now 50)Married 3.5 years, together 5.5 D-Day #1 - 2/10/16 #2 - 2/20/16 #3 - 5/27/16 Divorced 6/12/17 One daughter, 9, the light of my life. Finally happy.
howcouldhe1 ( member #13210) posted at 12:23 AM on Saturday, September 4th, 2010
I've been thinking of you all day uni. And about how our lives can change so terribly in the blink of an eye.
My heart just aches for you all. I'm so sorry. Thank goodness that you were able to be with her.
Wishing you strength.
((((((uni and family))))))
Me BS 54 FWH (BT) 52 M 22 years D Day 4/11/06 Over a year of trickle truths. March 08. D Day 2. Online porn and SA. Just when I thought we'd be ok, July 19 08. BT had accident. Severe brain damage, in persistent vegetative state. I lost him anyway.
SoHappyNow ( member #8923) posted at 4:40 AM on Saturday, September 4th, 2010
This just breaks my heart, Unicorn.......
I'm sending strengh and love in your direction. May God hold you in the palm of his hand until you're strong enough to go on.
In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus--------73 now. Dday #1 was 11/11/05 ***Used to be hit-by-a-train*** Widowed, then VERY happily remarried 2/14/14
lingerdog ( member #24459) posted at 4:47 AM on Saturday, September 4th, 2010
So sorry, (((uni and family)))
What lies behind us & what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
Oliver Wendell Holmes -Stolen from Uni's page
iseetriple ( member #6556) posted at 5:29 AM on Saturday, September 4th, 2010
oh Uni...even in your deepest pain you continue to teach us and offer us life lessons. You are an amazing gift form God...If your dear daughter was even remotely like you than the world has suffered a huge loss. (and heaven has gained a beautiful angel. )
In honor of your daughter I have written "love letters" to my children this evening. I will hug them extra hard and tonight we will pray for you and your family.
Don't waste your whole life trying to get back what was taken away.
optimist ( member #27939) posted at 5:40 AM on Saturday, September 4th, 2010
Unspeakably sorry for you. Nobody should ever bear the pain you must be in. you are in the hearts of many.
Me: 39 Divorced April 4 2009
Kids: 9, 12 and 14 ALL AMAZING
My past... is my past now...
Lotsa ( member #28078) posted at 10:00 AM on Saturday, September 4th, 2010
I am so sorry to read of your loss Unicornsearcher. The thought of outliving our children is one hopefully few of us have to experience in their lifetime. Treasure and celebrate the wonderful memories you and your family undoubtedly have of your dear daughter.
My sincere condolences to you, your husband and extended family.
Abby ( member #5526) posted at 10:56 AM on Saturday, September 4th, 2010
I am so sorry for your loss, Uni. You & your family are in my prayers.
Kim D ( member #16220) posted at 12:41 PM on Saturday, September 4th, 2010
I am so incredibly sorry
Me (BS): 32 (now 48)FWH: 40 (now 56)DDay: 3/14/07 (DDay 2: 7/16/25)Finally moving on!
Nouveau ( member #1731) posted at 1:41 PM on Saturday, September 4th, 2010
There are no words. I'm so sorry.
I sing the songs of a woman who has passed through anger and outrage to a kind of stunned resignation in the face of overwhelming human folly.....
unicornsearcher ( member #912) posted at 3:08 PM on Saturday, September 4th, 2010
It still feels very unreal & just a horrible nitemare that won't go away. We love the stuff you guys have so kindly posted, & want to include some of it at her memorial. We're going to try to make affordable arrangements again in a few minutes, but we're planning to have her service tomorrow morning.
We think B never knew the true extent of how severe her injuries were, as soon as I got there I told the doctors & nurses not to say anything negative near her or to tell her about her arm which was completely severed at the accident right by her shoulder. We did tell her she was very badly hurt but had a wonderful team of doctors working on her & we were all there for her as long as it took. And that God & his angels were there for her too, so to let them all take care of her in the way only they could.
They had to give her over 50 units of blood & blood products just to keep her alive as long as they were able to. She would have suffered for so long even if she had been able survive with many, many surgeries required for quite a while.
So we are all very glad she is not suffering or will she ever again, but still quite shell shocked. H just got out of the hospital a week ago from having mini-strokes & been told he had to rest for a few days before driving back home which is why we were only a couple hundred miles away when we got the call. So last nite he spent most of it in the ER to get checked & make sure he was going to be OK especially since he's had a severe ear infection but did get some medicine for that. He got diagnosed with a brain cyst in the middle of last month, so these have been stressful times to say the least.
Thanks for all your wonderful support, prayers & caring, it means so much to us especially at such a trying time.
In honor of your daughter I have written "love letters" to my children this evening. I will hug them extra hard and tonight we will pray for you and your family.
That's wonderful! That last workshop H & I did together was one on writing Love Letters. We had a woman there that wanted to write one to her son & we got such sweet emails from those in the class afterwards telling us what happened when they gave the letters they wrote out.
So we definitely encourage moe love letters to be written... 
[This message edited by unicornsearcher at 9:13 AM, September 4th (Saturday)]
11/02 Busted WH 4+ cheating yrs, 11/06 Busted [Month Long Lustfest]. 2/1/08 admits false version of betrayals, so no full disclosure / "whole truth" yet. '09 Together, great work in progress. '12 Still gladly united.
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 3:23 PM on Saturday, September 4th, 2010
Uni, I lurked for a long time and I always looked for your posts because they held so much love and light and wisdom. Your daughter was blessed to have you and you her. Thank you for being you. Keeping you and yours in my prayers for love, strength, peace and courage during these difficult days.
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
foxglove ( member #21791) posted at 3:23 PM on Saturday, September 4th, 2010
(((unicornsearcher))))
I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Me (BS) 57
XH (WS)
Married 21 years
Divorced 2/19/07
Two grown sons
Remarried 9/18
iwantamiracle ( member #22812) posted at 3:59 PM on Saturday, September 4th, 2010
i read your last post aloud to my mom, i also told her of your last post about being grateful to have had the time so that your dd could be surrounded with all who love her....and she said through her tears that you sound like an amazing woman, and that you reminded her of when my grandmother had to bury her second child, the first child was 7 and was immediate, the second child was in her early 30's and she had leukemia, and she felt blessed to have that time with her to say her goodbyes and to be with her before she passed....time she didn't have with the 7year old....
you are an inspiration, you daughter was so lucky to have you....
and i am still praying for you and your family, you still have so much going on....so
sending prayers and love....
((((uni and family)))
My life is finally my own!!
I am happy and I am at peace!
I survived the worst pain I have ever known!!
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