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Hi LJ

Thanks for your kind words about our lad on this one.

We really are proud of how he handled it.

If I may, could I ask how your are doing?

If I may, could I ask how your are doing?

I'm ok. WW and I are doing a joint therapy session in about 18 hours from now in order to hammer out the details of our arrangement (re:paperwork, boundaries, etc.) Not lawyers. Just therapists so everyone is on the same page.

I also think I mentioned once or twice earlier in this thread about women hitting on me more often because I haven't been wearing the wedding ring. Well, I was at an industry event earlier tonight and one gal in particular was just relentless to the point where it's making me uncomfortable. She's very cute, but also I can tell she'd be drama to the extreme and would be nothing but a mistake. Not sure how to navigate telling someone "please stop-- this is making me uncomfortable," especially when she shares many mutual professional friends with me.

So, that's going on, too.

Oh, and, responding to your post about the Daily Show got me in trouble with the mods.

Hi LJ

So sorry that I got you into trouble with the mods. I don't know what it is about me but I seem to be this one man wrecking ball in your thread.

The one time that I unknowingly broke a rule, the mods reprimanded, but it was ever so gentle. I still felt like hell for a week though. Beat myself up more than they ever could have hoped to.

Hope they were gentle.

I know exactly what you are talking about the other woman seeing you as fair game. I wrote about it in my thread. Quite terrifying. Amongst other things, I was invited to a previously, women only book club. It was a face to face invitation and I felt so awkward in the conversation. I sort of thought that maybe they thought that XWW and I were divorcing because well, maybe I had come out, and I sort of spluttered my way through explaining, in the politest possible way, that I was straight. The answer I got back is "that is precisely why we want you there".

I can't tell you how to deal with it. I had a secret weapon in my arsenal that you dont have. I have, my savvy DD, and she did all the defending of dad I ever could have hoped for.

I am sure that there are other wise souls on here who will have the answer for you though.

On the joint session, the only thing that I would caution you on is being prepared, just in case it turns into an attempted hoovering session. I am imagining that it is a joint session with her IC.

I am certain that you have no inclination in this regard but can you be sure of that with WW. I might be way off track here. I have always felt as if I wanted to be some sort of support for you so I dont read her thread.

Hope it goes well. Will send some good mojo if needed.

HI LJ

By my reckoning, you will have had your joint therapy session. Would it be in order for me to ask how that went?

Regards

Ohfor

Can you articulate the reason for such an arrangement, other than financial?

Hi LJ

Was just wondering where you might find yourself on the roller coaster right now.

I am hoping that your ride is getting to the place where it is beginning to flatten out a bit.

I am still on my ride unfortunately. Had hoped that it would be over by now, but it looks as if the XWW purchased the extra long season pass or something. At least I can now see that each new up is a little higher than the previous one and each new low is not quite as low as the one before.

I was hoping that I would prove the exception to the 2 to 5 year healing jail time that our WW's get us sentenced to, but it does not seem as if I am that special after all.

Hoping that maybe your are that guy that all of us hope will emerge some day, and show us that it can be done and then how.

Just know that you still have a buddy who is thinking of you and wishing you well.

Hey LJ,

I have never actually posted on this forum, I have just been quietly reading stories of people on here.

But for some reason you and your (ex?)wife's story has been on my mind since the very beginnning.

Since you started to get active on here again, I just wanted to let you know that people still think about you guys and that we all hope that you both have found peace in the meantime, whatever outcome that might have been.

Hey LJ,

I have never actually posted on this forum, I have just been quietly reading stories of people on here.

But for some reason you and your (ex?)wife's story has been on my mind since the very beginnning.

Since you started to get active on here again, I just wanted to let you know that people still think about you guys and that we all hope that you both have found peace in the meantime, whatever outcome that might have been.

Wow did you make your first post just for me?! Thanks for the thoughts and the good vibes.

Yeah I still log in to this ol' forum every couple of days or so... mostly to keep up on running conversations within my PMs. The last year+ has been undoubtedly the worst in my life, but I'm starting to see a light on the other side, and the support from members like you played a big part in that turnaround. So, thanks everyone.

LJ! You can't come back and just leave again without a little update...did you ever make a final decision about things?

Psychological Fact-

Men tend to have affairs because they feel unappreciated, undesired, unnoticed. They’re seeking an ego boost. It usually begins with physical attraction and sex. Emotional feelings may develop from there.

Unlike men, women have affairs seeking an emotional closeness, emotional support, understanding. Physical relationship usually requires she knows at least a little about him (could be just a good discussion in a bar, he makes her laugh, is sympathetic).

Men’s libido is visual... which is why ‘temporary insanity’ is a more likely male excuse. See it- Drool Over It - Brain Dead - Infidelity.

Not so much for women. They See It - Like It - Talk To It... Then depending on how bad their marriage is and how big an ass they thought he was they will move forward. No sudden insanity or brain death.

Who the f**k saves love letters from an affair?🤣🤣🤣🤣

Who the f**k saves love letters from an affair?

People who still live in the betrayal- emotionally if not actually.