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realitybites ( member #6908) posted at 6:37 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2013
at the time of the affair:
WS- 53
OW- 27
Stop expecting loyalty from people who cannot even give you honesty.
He stopped being my husband the first time he cheated. It took me awhile to understand that I was no longer his wife.
cancuncrushed ( member #28156) posted at 6:41 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2013
My H and I were both 50. OW was 29. She was at the company picnic moving on my H the day of my 50th birthday. She was aggressive coworker.Second OW (insane flirting only at wedding) was my daughters school chum. 25 yrs. For him, its all about the young, beautiful, body. HOPELESS
Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 6:41 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2013
Ow was 37 at the start of A...ws a few yrs older
BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????
wahoo8895 ( member #29244) posted at 6:44 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2013
Me - BH (51)
Her - FWW (50)
Married 20 years
Together 22 years
3 kids
DDay #1 - 12/8/09 (EA)
DDay #2 - 12/18/09 (PA)
A ended - 2/21/10
R'ed
englishrose ( member #34974) posted at 6:48 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2013
WH was 42 at that time,
his OW 43.
me BW 46 WH 43
DS 7
DS's 21 & 19 (my boys - from my previous marriage)
Ddays 3&17/3/2011
Painfool ( member #33227) posted at 7:23 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2013
Agree that age isn't necessarily an important factor in this.
At the time I (BS) was 28, H was 29/30 and OW was 42.
Married 11 years, together 14.
1 child, aged 8.
XWS (34)
Me (32)
D-day 11/08/11
Attempted R and ALMOST made it
D April 2015
Almost doesn't count.
imagoodwitch ( member #23375) posted at 7:57 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2013
I am 5 years younger than WS, OW is the same age as WS.
Ordinary average everyday sane psycho super goddess
MartlArts ( member #36130) posted at 8:33 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2013
My H & wannabe OW were both early 60s during the OEA. I'm 10 yr younger than either and could probably pass for her daughter.
BUT - since they hadn't seen each other in decades, my H says during their communications he was envisioning both himself and her as their younger selves.
excerpt from an awesome quote "Forgiveness - the finishing of old business that allows us to experience the present, free of contamination from the past."
woundedwidow ( member #36869) posted at 9:28 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2013
I totally agree that age has nothing to do with the affair. At the start of his EA, late H was 67; his AP was 68 - and me? I was 53. It really did a number on my self-esteem to be thrown over for someone 15 years older than me. 
Be careful what you wish for the most - you may get it.
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 11:08 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2013
WH's A:
WS-42
MOW-25
My RA:
WS-35
OM-22
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
namaste32 ( member #32848) posted at 12:27 AM on Thursday, July 4th, 2013
Both,me and my H were 31 at the time and OW was 46 at the time.This really hit hard on my selfesteem,to be thrown away for somebody so much older then me.
stunnedin12 ( member #38141) posted at 2:40 AM on Thursday, July 4th, 2013
Beginning of affair (near as I can tell from truth and lies given)
WH 54
OW 34
ME - 44
ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse
Lawyers involved.
Ashland13 ( member #38378) posted at 2:52 AM on Thursday, July 4th, 2013
I don't think it's age either. OW here is the same age as me-she was an easy target and fell for STBX like a stupid fool. He was fascinated by the likenesses that he thinks we share. Ewww.
I think it's as some of the posts say, with a person's problems they aren't working on or aware they have...with lack of boundaries, in this case...lack of standards...lack of empathy. Not thinking, acting on impulses and so on. I think these aren't age related, but qualities that people have or don't.
Also, could it be sometimes about what a person is willing to throw away or an enticement from sneaking?
It was very hard for me to realize that OW probably wasn't even thinking that STBX could have a family-she just believed his every word, as I used to.
I used to work hard at trying to find a definite reason, too, and I don't think there is just one.
Ashland 13
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
AussieMum ( member #36579) posted at 4:33 AM on Thursday, July 4th, 2013
He's 50 - his first OW was in her early 30's.
His 2nd and 3rd OW's were old school friends so around the same age.
I'm 45. But as others have said, OW could have been any age as long as she paid him some attention and believed his bullsh*t.
Me 47
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS13 & DD8)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14
wannabenormal ( member #19772) posted at 5:11 AM on Thursday, July 4th, 2013
Adding to stats: when it started, OW was about to turn 40. XH was about to be 41 and I was 36.
Happydays ( member #38681) posted at 5:48 AM on Thursday, July 4th, 2013
BH 33
FWW 32
DS: 3 year old.
Dday 10/14/2012
No remorse so:
Divorced 02/15/2013. No alimony, no CS, got apartment. Won all battles and mind games off the courts.
Nogoingback ( member #38712) posted at 9:33 AM on Thursday, July 4th, 2013
WW was 32
I was 33
OW was 44
Yep I was the "young hottie" and OW was a frumpy older horsey woman. I used to refer to her as "Camilla".
BS 39
WS 38
together 10 years prior to:
DD 4/8/2011
EA/PA with co-worker while I was pregnant
3 yo DD and 1 to old DS
4 years trying to R
It's over, baby.
"Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim." Nora Ephron
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