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wifeno2 ( member #31529) posted at 1:28 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
Yes he was. He had more energy, was more playful and sometimes downright giddy. He wanted to have sex everyday (instead of every couple of months). He did try to pick some stupid fights with me and was more critical of me occasionally.
After I discovered one A he took it underground, and also was trying to start another one. That was the happiest I have ever seen him. He even said that he had never felt so good about himself in his whole life, that his self esteem was "at an all time high."
He usually sleeps at least 10 hours a day, frequently more. But during the A he could get up early and stay out late.
So yes, much happier during an A.
Me-BW (45)
Him-WS (42)
DS 19 (prior relationship)
DS-8
DDay #1- 10/22/2010 EA/PA with MOW coworker
Dday#2:11/17/2010 beginning secret emails with potential OW#2
DDay #3 11/22/2010 still seeing OW#1
Too many DD's to count: Now up to OW #6.
tryinginmi ( member #29358) posted at 7:44 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
My WH was mean an nasty. He mostly gave me the silent treatment with occasional explosions against the children and myself. He would be "nice" if others were around, but was abusive at home.
Me - BW 40
Him - FWH 39
Her - MOW 47 Fat Assed Toothless Man Faced Whore!!!
DD#1 July 28, 2010 Admitted to EA. A went underground.
DD#2 August 19,2010 Admitted PA
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 7:48 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
FWH was a big nasty mean asshole. One of his favorite phrases to me was "Shut up, bitch". 
And, I would respond "F*ck you!" Yeah, we were quite the charming pair.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 9:30 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
WH was very distant and always cold and moody. His favorite phrase was that "he was not happy and that everything in his life was making him unhappy (including me)" I thought it was job stress, turned out to be an A.
I keep reading those that say their WS's were mean and distant to the kids too. So was mine and it is something I still struggle to get past.
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 10:36 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
Yes, he never communicated with me more than during his affairs. He was texting both if us like crazy. I'm kinda shocked by these responses.,,,
64fleet ( member #18710) posted at 10:41 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
She was in a fantastic mood most of the time, but would really get mad if me or the kids made her focus on the crappy reality that was "home life". She had all kinds of energy, too-she could do her job and text OMM 30-40 times a day and talk to him on the phone for hours...
hurtincolorado ( new member #40001) posted at 11:35 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
Yes she was in a better mood and actually more sexually active with me. I find that odd. Since she broke it off things have cooled down with us in bed
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