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Faithful w/Love ( member #33128) posted at 9:50 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Sending my prayers with you. You were there for me with hugs and support, so I am here for you. It is hard but she knows you are there with all your family. She can hear you, so speak loving words and let her know it is okay to leave here to go home as you have been. You are a great daughter and I am so glad you get to be with her.
BS(ME)41 WH(HIM)38
DD 21 and DS 16
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 10:47 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
I'm so sorry, NIK. I hope things go as peacefully as possible for you all. Many blessings to you all.
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 11:33 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
I am sorry NIK
My thoughts are with you and your family.
Your mom is lucky to have you by her side. She raised a wonderful woman.
(((NIK)))
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
still2suspicious ( member #31722) posted at 11:52 PM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
Sending hugs and prayers to you, and your family.
I just spent a week with my beloved aunt, and I am grateful for that time.
May your Mom find the peace and love on the other side.
(((nik)))
Me: BSHim: WHDDay: LTEA Every storm runs out of rain - Gary Allen
D final 2/23
welcome14 ( member #26741) posted at 12:29 AM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
I was blessed to spend the last few days with my mom as well, and I am so glad I had the opportunity. We had a very difficult relationship when I was younger, and I was able to let go of a lot of that as I waited with her for her to let go and move to a better place. It was very cathartic for both of us, I believe. Prayers for you in this difficult time, and I hope you find peace and closure.
Bs- me
Someone I used to know- Him
Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx
I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.
risingfromashes ( member #3903) posted at 1:13 AM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
My thoughts and prayers are with you Nik.
Tawnee1969 ( member #12358) posted at 9:11 AM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
There is a special thing about loved ones. If you are holding their hand you don't need words. Love, thoughts and feeling travel through osmosis and are received and welcomed.
No actual words need to be spoken,
Is the f*cking you're getting, worth the f*cking you're getting?
knightsbff ( member #36853) posted at 8:55 PM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
(((NIK)))
Sending prayers.
fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 25, 17, 13. 2 dogs.
I edit often to fix stuff ☺️
Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 10:15 AM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
(((((((NIK))))))))))
Keeping you and your family in my prayers.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 12:55 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
Thinking of you, NIK; I know it's a tough time.
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
macakipa ( member #33735) posted at 1:18 PM on Thursday, October 17th, 2013
I am so very sorry NIK. Thinking of you and keeping you and your family in my prayers.
M -25 years, T - 31 years, 4 children
Dday October 8, 2011 - Multiple PAs and ONs
Divorced 1-8-13
"When you give a lot of importance to someone in your life, you lose your importance in their life."
BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 1:31 AM on Friday, October 18th, 2013
AppleBlossom ( member #38541) posted at 2:04 AM on Friday, October 18th, 2013
Oh, sweetheart, I am so sorry. I lost my mum a few years ago now and was able to be with her as she passed, and in the days leading to that day.
It is still a great source of comfort to me that I was there with her at such a special time.
Please lean on people as much as you can in the coming days.
I am here day and night if you need to talk. Grief is a special form of madness.
Much love to you.
cass ( member #24261) posted at 9:27 PM on Friday, October 18th, 2013
Such a hard place to be.
(((NIK)))
DDay - April 2008
Me - 58 and doing great, alone.
Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket!
nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 9:38 PM on Friday, October 18th, 2013
Thank you all. You have no idea how comforting it is to know so many people have my family in their thoughts.
Several siblings are heading home this weekend, hoping to see Mom one last time and hold Dad up in the final days. I will be heading back on Sunday for another visit as well.
Arrangements have been made for her services, her obituary has been drafted, and photos have been gathered and scanned to share with those who come to mourn.
Our attention is now turning from the bothersome but necessary logistics to the memories, stories, and legends that Mom is leaving in her wake. We are sharing laughter, eye rolls, inside jokes, and bittersweet tears: celebrating the life of a remarkable and singular woman.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 10:08 PM on Friday, October 18th, 2013
(((nik & family))) Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.
Faithsurviver ( member #30860) posted at 11:21 PM on Friday, October 18th, 2013
((NIK))
My father just passed away on Wednesday afternoon, I was with him when he took his last breath 
Just before he passed, I told him that we loved him, that he was the best son, husband, father, grandpa, and great grandpa we could ever have 
I assured him that our mother would be fine with three grown children to look after her, that his request to "go home" could now happen because the door was open and his loved ones were waiting for him
I stroked his cheek and forehead while holding his hand, soft classical music was playing.
It was so peaceful and I feel so blessed to be there when he went to be with God <3<3<3
BW (me) 51
XWH 53, but acts like a 15 y/o
M 18 yrs
DS 16, DD 14 (on D-day)
EA,PA with OW, 30 yrs his jr.
DDay 11/30/09 (DS's B-day), WH moved out 4 days later.
I filed for D-1/29/10,
DIVORCED 10/22/10
You can't reason with an NPD!!!
nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 11:55 PM on Friday, October 18th, 2013
(((((Faithsurvivor))))) So sorry for your loss. It sounds like you gave him an amazing gift in his last moments.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 12:22 AM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
celebrating the life of a remarkable and singular woman
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And I see those exact same qualities in you.
(((((NIK& Family)))))
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 1:05 AM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
.. 
sending prayers to you NIK and family..
smy
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
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