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I never counted the actual texts but when they were deep into the A it was texting on and off from 6AM until 1AM everyday. I had no idea until I had a feeling and picked up his phone and saw some texts. Then I went back and checked the phone bill.

He even got a private phone and told me it was for work. He hid it in his car. I picked it up one day and looked at the contacts OW1 and OW2 only. oW2 is 30 years younger than he is.

now with iMessage and all the apps it's impossible to track, but I rarely bother looking anymore. just gets me upset. They still communicate but not as much, at least I don't think so.

They still work together so I can imagine what's going on. Every morning he leaves home to go to his job in the 3 person office...him, OW and some other guy. Would love to talk to that guy

My full story is in another thread but I found out more info today from OMW. She has used a program to bring up their SMS history and found that she caught them in the nick of time: my WW and her WH were planning an overnight work trip on 20 Nov 13...a trip that didn't happen because obviously they got caught. In my mind this refutes her claims that the affair wasn't ever 'about sex' and that 'she never wanted that.'

She also has denied emphatically that they have ever sexted...to which I replied that she had better come clean lest I read the text logs and found out that also a lie. She admitted after some minimalising (oh it was only 'allusions and innuendo') that yes, this had occured.

And the rage/anger starts again. Looks like I am back at square one.

[This message edited by Hurthalo at 4:28 PM, January 12th (Sunday)]

HurtHalo,

Sorry to hear that the TT continues and your pain keeps getting refreshed.

It sucks.

I still think you are eventually gonna find out their trysts were sexual in the park.

That message you saw from him whining about how now they were not gonna be able to explore the physical side of things isn't conclusive to me they had done nothing to that point, especially now you know about the planned overnight.

There are a lot of things they probably couldn't try in their afternoon quickies in public places, and they were saving those for the hotel or another opportunity to be alone in private.

It could be the loss of those plans he's crying about.

If the TT didn't just keep coming at you in waves here, I might be inclined to say your WW was telling the truth about there being no sex during their park adventures.

But the fact that she is still hiding things and only revealing when you or OMW finds incontrovertible proof of the lies, tells me that their is still more to come and this is unfortunately probably one of the next discoveries you are going to make,

Dyokemm: My wife said she'd happily take a poly to prove they didn't have sex. I'm guessing she didn't bank on me possibly asking the question 'were you planning on having sex in the very near future?'

[This message edited by Hurthalo at 3:55 AM, January 13th (Monday)]

HurtHalo,

You might want to consider taking her up on that offer.

I've seen this several times on other forums I visit.

Often, its a bluff by the WS.

They think that by agreeing to take it, the BS will back off.

I've read many stories where the WS finally confessed on the way to or in the parking lot when they saw that the test would indeed happen.

Hey buddy she's an officer in Australia's Armed Forces. Do they have a problem with her infidelity. and that it took place well she was on duty, she supposed to show a position of leadership and integrity and now with her character in question. You would think she would be reprimand. I know they do that in the US Armed Forces. Anyways I feel for you buddy you're going to have to ask yourself if you're willing to live with this knowing what she's capable of doing. Divorce might be the way to go. Whatever you do just keep posting buddy

[This message edited by trojan007 at 12:14 PM, January 13th (Monday)]

My most memorable timing of a text by my WW to her OM during A#1 was while I was laying on the urologist's operating chair getting snippy snipped while she waited in the waiting room. Was totally lambasted when I was checking the phone records and saw this one........is there no shame?? Very broken soul indeed, hopefully she is finally getting the help she needs.

My WW had over 1200 texts in two weeks