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Harriet ( member #34543) posted at 5:07 AM on Friday, July 11th, 2014
My ex has had an on again/off again relationship with OW. He is a serial cheater, so I think he is hoping to play the field a little and won't commit to living with or marrying the OW. At least not for a while.
Truthfully, though, I do not know what their relationship is like at all.
So to answer the original question: No, my ex has not married and is not living with the OW. My kids do not care for the OW and rarely spend time with her. I believe they think she is "ok" but just don't enjoy hanging out with her. They seem to be well adjusted, and I try to keep any bitterness or sadness I feel from affecting their relationship with their dad. He is very much a "Disney-Dad" but does keep up with his visitation and child support.
D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 5:41 AM on Friday, July 11th, 2014
A very unexpected Dday occurred in early Jan 11. The affair started 2 months earlier. We had a 90 day D and they married in July 12. They are still together to my knowledge though I'm close to his fam - they have sparse contact now.
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
debbysbaby ( member #32962) posted at 2:21 PM on Friday, July 11th, 2014
Raising hand here. He left 10 years ago when kids were 6, 8 and 10. Fast forward and they are now 16, 18, and 20. It pains me to think about the people that they should have become. There's no doubt this divorce and the constant mind games from OW and poopsmear have profoundly affected them. I see DD20 repeating so many of the unhealthy patterns in her own relationships with her BF. I see my DS18 acting so much like poopsmear that it's saddens me. He acts entitled, selfish and disrespectful to his sisters despite all my efforts. He's a super achiever in school and his extracurriculars so he thinks that's enough. My DD16 never forms any deep lasting attachments. She cycles through friends. She is emotionally extremely immature. In fact, I've come close several times in my sadness and frustration to posting about things going on with my children that are clearly byproducts of this messed up situation but it's just too depressing and seems hopeless and so I have not bothered.
I do think that the immaturity of the OW and NPD behaviors of poopsmear have done far more to contribute to their problems than simply the divorce did. Their loyalties were constantly vied for and mind games played.
I think they'd be better off if he had died.
-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004
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