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painpaingoaway ( member #27196) posted at 4:36 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
Oh no sweetie, I am so so sorry. How terrifying. Thank god you had the presence of mind to take quick and decisive action. You saved yourself from god knows what kind of horror.
Just reading your account gave me that sick feeling that many of us know so well.
I have been in two terrifyingly similar situations, both from which I escaped unharmed physically, but yes, this may mess with your head for quite a while. In one situation, I was able to run, but in the other, I froze, and remained trapped in an apt with the guy for over an hour in which I was finally able to talk my way out of.
I, too, had previously felt invincible. Not now. I think we all need to really have a plan in place for protecting ourselves in ALL sorts of situations. My cousin just posted on Facebook last night that she had a flat tire in a bad part of town. There are just so many things that can happen. 😟
I'm so happy you are okay. ((((Jrazz))))
[This message edited by painpaingoaway at 1:40 PM, July 2nd (Wednesday)]
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Tammy1 ( member #43280) posted at 5:16 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so glad you were able to get away. This will make me think twice about public bathrooms.
BW: 44 (me)
WH: 47 (him)
Married 22 years
3 kids
D-Day: 4/7/14, 11 month LTA
Together
sadone29 ( member #38597) posted at 6:29 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
So glad you're okay!
I'm happy that you had such great friends to help you through it.
DDay Feb. 28, 2013
"It is an act of self-respect and preservation to not forgive."
He finally moved out only because I became on obstacle in his new affair.
Jrazz (original poster member #31349) posted at 6:34 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
I've been thinking more than twice about restrooms since the weekend.
So I have calls out to IC's in my insurance program today, but true to form I felt the need to process on my own.
I ended up calling a dear friend from college who always has a way of centering me both with her brutal honesty and miraculous insight regarding what seems to motivate me.
After a longish blurtout of what happened, I immediately started to ask her questions about how and why I'm dealing with things the way I am.
In regards to fighting him off, she said: "Jrazz, you have always worked to be present in a moment no matter what. It's what makes you a pain in the ass to people who want to take a break from reality, and a hero to people who are desperately looking for truth. You don't let anyone or anything slide. EVER. Which can be obnoxious sometimes, but at least it's real. I'm not surprised at all that you shoved that fucker."
In regards to my growing shame and unease that people seemed to think I was perfectly fine all weekend when there was something boiling below the surface (new favorite sentiment), she said: "You have spent the last 3 years protecting your daughter from your pain. The way to you talk about the people at SI, I would think you look at them as an extension of Vrazz and felt the need to protect them."
She is a miracle of a friend. I wish I could pay her to be my therapist.
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"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
Jrazz (original poster member #31349) posted at 7:01 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
Calling the police local to the area now. Posting here to feel like I'm not alone.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 7:04 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
Virtually holding your hand. 
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 7:08 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
Definitely now alone Jrazz.
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
Jrazz (original poster member #31349) posted at 7:18 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
Gave them some info. Apparently they have an incomplete report from that address and someone needs to call me back.
Gosh my heart is pounding. It's just me and Thor in the house today - Merris is having surgery and I have to pick her up in a few hours, and I'm making dinner for Crazz's boss. Being busy is a really good thing right now.
I can't thank you all enough for letting me know that you're here with me.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 7:26 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
((((Razzie))))
Deep breaths. We got your back.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 7:41 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
What a hugely courageous thing to do. I hope the information you give them gets this guy off the streets.
And mojo for your doggie too.
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 7:47 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 8:21 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
Lifting you up in my thoughts, and hoping the police can capture and prosecute this creep.
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 8:27 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
We're here, hon.
Hold steady. ((( Jrazz )))
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 8:43 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
sending strength. ((Jrazz))
I'm here to offer any support I can provide, anytime.
got your back
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
Plinker77 ( new member #43901) posted at 9:00 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
Horrible experience, glad you are okay
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 9:02 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
Still here and thinking of you Jrazz. Hang in there. You're doing great
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
Jrazz (original poster member #31349) posted at 9:11 PM on Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014
Thanks friends. I'm doing well. Have a very busy evening ahead and looking forward to it. I will report back after the call.
Hugs to all. 
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 12:42 AM on Thursday, July 3rd, 2014
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 12:47 AM on Thursday, July 3rd, 2014
Sending SI mojo and strength.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 12:57 AM on Thursday, July 3rd, 2014
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
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