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You are lying by omission.

LOL.

There's 'lying' going on, alright. But not to anyone in the poster's family. Just to folks on internet message boards to get a rise out of them.

Thanks everyone but I think I might let this one sort itself out

If it true, is dangerous.

My WS cheated on me on and off over several years.

As a result, I was gifted with 3 STDs.

One wasn't that big of a deal, just some ugly warts.

Another gave me pre-cancer. I had to sit on an operating table, fully conscious, and habr pieces of my cervix sliced off. I worry everyday about cancer.

Another scarred my insides. It left me infertile and I had to have surgery to try to clean my internal scars up. There were surgical complications, and I nearly died. I still cannot have a normal bowel movement, am still infertile, and live in pain everyday from the internal scar tissue kinking all my insides out of place.

Ws and AP didn't kill me...yet.

Someone said that someone else on here had avsimiliar situation. I couldn't find it. Hm nice try...SMH

annnnndd they bit.

Seems the OP has made their mind up. Possibly a lot of triggering going on but if the decision has been made wish the OP the best of luck and help the others that truly need helping I figure.

Do you think that STDs aren't a risk? Have you taken basic sex ed? If not, I suggest you discuss the risk you are subjecting your son to with a medical professional, ASAP, before he catches some uncurable, potentially fatal, crotch rot.

And other than that, all I have to say is good luck to you in your relationship with your son and I will pray for his safety as he is unknowingly exposed to potentially very deadly diseases.

[This message edited by Hardroadout at 7:39 AM, September 17th (Sunday)]

Thanks for the help everyone.

Does anyone have any loyalty to your son? Not his girl, or best friend, or even family. That's what he's going to be left with when this sorts itself out -- absolutely no one to lean on.

What are you going to do if he finds out about this on his own and comes to you for advice -- feign surprise? Or congratulate him for finally catching on?

[This message edited by mouthkeptshut at 7:49 AM, September 17th (Sunday)]

Look up membername "TheHatedOne"

That is the thread about a mother who withheld.

You need to tell your son asap.

You have no loyalty or love for your son, just his lying cheating whore.

You are guilty by being complicit.

Glad you are not my mother, and when he does find out, believe me she will throw you under the bus, just like you have thrown your son under it by lying to him.

[This message edited by Killian at 7:49 AM, September 17th (Sunday)]

My wife has repeatedly said she wished someone would have told her.

This working itself out could end up with your son with an incurable disease.

There is no letting this work itself out here. You are putting your fears of being the one to break the news in front of you not wanting be the target of backlash.

You seem to think that infidelity is a "Victimless" crime, but it isn't. Your son already knows something isn't right in his relationship with his partner. You know the truth but because you don't want to be perceived and the cause of pain you are keeping your mouth shut.

You are sticking your head in the sand, and the person who is going to pay for this is your son.

My best guess is the OP is trolling here to get a rise out of everyone. Not too many questions are directly answered.

Lets say she really is the type who just let her kids play in traffic and said life will teach them (if they live). And now the kid is an adult and she feels even more strongly she should stay out of it.

How on earth could you treat his cheating gf as life is normal. Do you have some really special relationship with her? Do you like her better than your DS? Do you love her boyfriend more than your DS? Either this story is one big made up fat lie, or there is something more you are not telling. But I guess there would be no surprise in that. I just don't understand why you would come to THIS forum though if you really don't have a problem with the gf cheating on your DS, which would seem to be the case.

One reason I think the whole story is made up is because of the statement about a "bad decision" and then in another place says he is out of town and she is cheating again, in an ongoing affair. At the very least, I would think the relationship with his gf would sour with a screaming match or something, telling her to stop hurting your DS!

[This message edited by Bobbi_sue at 7:58 AM, September 17th (Sunday)]

OP, still waiting for a response from you on this:

What did the cheater tell you and your daughter that convinced you not to say anything?

Who sent you the email?

What evidence did you receive?

How do you know she cheated yesterday?

I'm asking so that when your son finds us we can give him the full extent of how he has been betrayed.

Worriedone72

My wife and her Mom don't speak anymore. The last straw in their relationship was when her Mom thought she was protecting me, (I am the WH) by keeping something from my BS. Like h0peless said where are your loyalties. Don't lose your son by being loyal and protecting his cheating girlfriend.

I don't think this post can be real, can it?

If it IS, though - would you sit back and not interfere if your' son's girlfriend and friend were stealing from his bank account? No? Maybe to 'save him the pain of knowing' that two (or three including you) people were stabbing him in the back?

This has to be a wind up!

Ok look when I talked to her she says just let her do this in her own time and since she's friends with my daughter since H.S she didn't wanna ruin their friendship. My daughter dosent wanna lose their friendship as she and my son were never close. She's actually my daughters first BFF.

Yeah, because her being the daughters BFF trumps the fact that she is fucking other guys behind your son's back.

Seriously, this thinking is completely screwed up.

She isn't going to tell him in her time because she has no reason to.

I am puzzled about the screen name. What is she worried about? Her daughter? Her son's cheating GF? Her son's cheating BFF? Her own self-serving agenda?

Pretty sure that her poor betrayed son is not who worriedone72 is remotely worried about.

You obviously have made up your mind about what you are going to do. When your sons finds out about his fiance, could you at least direct him to SI? He is going to need all the support he can get. It appears his real life support is nonexistent. We will be here to help him.

One of the toughest parts of parenting is realizing the ever-changing role one has as a parent. If you are successful, then at 25 your child should be independent and self-reliant. Finished or finishing his/her education, found their vocation and starting the process of their own independent lives with spouse, family and so on. The successful parent sits on the sideline and basically only has the role the child/adult allows them to have.

I think your son will recover from infidelity.

I am certain this relationship with this gf is over.

Sadly, I also think any relationship he can have with you or his sister is also over.

Your “not lying” is going to cost you dearly.

Your son can cope without you. He can do so even better than you without him. Withholding this info is probably going to cost you seeing him married, sharing when he shows you his first home and probably any access to grandchildren.

Hope “not hurting” him is worth it…

With that in mind I do hope you are a troll. That’s just pissing off a few people. If this is true, it’s costing family relationships for so many.