BondJaneBond (original poster member #82665) posted at 9:03 PM on Tuesday, November 18th, 2025
You all know the book I mean. I think it is literally the best and most sensible book written on this topic. In the catalog. I understand many may not agree with her views but she has helped thousands who do. THOUSANDS. And I don't even seem to be able to reference this book even though other books with their authors' names are allowed here? Why is this? Can someone explain this to me as I think many people literally are missing the best book on the topic of surviving and thriving after infidelity. It is the book I would PERSONALLY recommend to anyone going through this issue. And....just to be clear, the author and I disagree vehemently on politics so this is not someone I'm friendly with. But I DO think she's right on with this topic and incredibly helpful for betrayed spouses. I would gift this book to anyone I know who is going through this.
I don't know if this is the right place to put this, but I'd really like to know what the reasoning is here. Maybe I'm posting it wrong?
What doesn't kill us, makes us stronger. Use anger as a tool and mercy as a balm.
Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 9:19 PM on Tuesday, November 18th, 2025
I'd suggest you PM the Mods
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Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 9:27 PM on Tuesday, November 18th, 2025
Please read the Guidelines:
STAFF ACTIONS: If you have a question regarding a staff action bring it to our attention by using the Private Message feature. Do not question staff actions on the public forums.
[This message edited by SI Staff at 9:28 PM, Tuesday, November 18th]
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BondJaneBond (original poster member #82665) posted at 9:45 PM on Tuesday, November 18th, 2025
Okay, sorry - this is gonna be a stupid question but.....how do I PM the mods? I've never used private messages here. Is there a button? Or is it in Contact us?
What doesn't kill us, makes us stronger. Use anger as a tool and mercy as a balm.
Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 9:50 PM on Tuesday, November 18th, 2025
I can share the following:
The author has a long-standing bad history with this site. It’s by mutual consent that no mention is made of the author or the authors work or site here on this site. That’s why you can’t post the authors full name – the software prevents it, and it’s frowned upon when posters try to bypass that limitation.
If you want to suggest a book or resource that’s not in the list of accepted books or is not commonly suggested then follow the Guidelines: Get staff approval before posting. I can share that I don’t remember too many suggestions that have been turned down – although I am 100% certain that particular book and author will be.
Up at the top of the site is a contact us menu.
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
