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My wife has agreed to a polygraph. I'd like everyone's feedback on their experiences with doing one:

Did you get the answers you were looking for?

Did it create more questions?

Issues with possible false positives or negatives?

If you got the answers you needed, did it create resentment that it took going to these lengths to get those answers?

If you had a parking lot confession, did that create resentment that it took having to schedule a polygraph to get the confession?

Did anyone's spouse react poorly after taking one?

How did you feel after getting the results, pass or fail?

Has anyone successfully reconciled after going through these lengths?

[This message edited by TrashPanda7 at 3:54 PM, Wednesday, December 24th]

TrashPanda7:

There is/are several posts in SI regarding the polygraph.

Most important is you must accept that is is not going to set your mind at ease. ??
She passes - then folks will remind you that the test is not perfectly correct all the time.

She fails - then you wonder if the fail is due to 'the 20%' -

I'm saying pass or fail - should not be the DECIDING factor in how to move forward with your relationship.

I firmly believe in how the test works (80% of the time!) but also I figured, in my situation, If I needed a polygraph to help decide whether to stay or go (marriage) was just not going to work for me.

If my trust was 'so low' that I would have her submit to a polygraph test, then "screw it" - we are getting divorced.

Also, I HATE euphemisms. One of them I hate is "Asking for a divorce." Bovine Scatology - want a divorce?
Go get a lawyer or paralegal or JUST GO TO THE COURTHOUSE and get the paperwork needed, fill it out and file.

My 1st wife got a lawyer and was floored with my reaction. OK? I'm gone. See Ya! end of story. Someone dislikes you enough to divorce - don't bother trying to swim UP a waterfall!!!!!!