Missmee (original poster member #86349) posted at 8:48 AM on Saturday, December 27th, 2025
Forgiveness, will try to make this make sense…
How and when do you forgive yourself for what you allowed during your partners affair? I’m annoyed with myself for how I allowed to be played. How oblivious everything was but I didn’t trust my gut. How long I allowed myself to be fooled for.
How do you forgive your partner/ex partner. Or not forgive them but let it go? Even if the relationship ends. How do you just let it go so it doesn’t consume, make you bitter?
The affair partner? In my case she tries to make out she was unaware of myself and our children. Obviously he was telling her other things but I reached out multiple times, he lived with me and didn’t make time for her. I’m not sure how much clearer she needed it.
So my question basically how do you forgive yourself, your partner/ex, affair partner? Not for them but for yourself so you’re not holding on? If that even makes sense?
And when does it happen?
