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Divorce/Separation :
stbx wants to start dating

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 NoThanksForTheMemories (original poster member #83278) posted at 12:43 AM on Wednesday, January 21st, 2026

We haven't even filed the paperwork yet, and he's ready to put himself out there. I mean, I figured this was coming eventually, and he told me in order to be honest/transparent about it, which okay, I'm glad for that, but wow, that was quick! Or at least it feels quick to me. Barely 6 months since he was fighting hard against the idea of divorce.

I always figured he'd be ready to date much sooner than me. He was in love with his AP and had nearly 3 year relationship with her, so he has recent experience with all that, unlike me who has had no feelings for anyone but him in 30+ years. Never mind the damage from having my entire reality destroyed. Honestly, right now, I don't want to date anyone and can't see myself becoming interested in it, but I know better than to say never.

I suspect he's been thinking about it or had met someone, because the other week he made a comment about how he's been "socializing a lot - with men, mainly, for now" or something like that, which clued me in that he must be thinking about women. I guess some part of me hoped he'd wait until we were further into the process, especially since we just told our daughter about his cheating a couple weeks ago, or that he'd remain single as evidence of being a changed person.

Ugh, this is why I dislike having hopes. They are continually dashed.

WS had a 3 yr EA+PA from 2020-2022, and an EA 10 years ago (different AP). Dday1 Nov 2022. Dday4 Sep 2023. False R for 2.5 months. 30 years together. Divorcing.

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 1:39 AM on Wednesday, January 21st, 2026

It goes to show that he is just trying to fill an empty hole in himself. And since he has not improved himself, it’s going to be a shitshow.

And yeah, totally sucks. But in a way dashed hopes like this will help to reinforce your resolve when you have those moments of doubt.

Sorry you are going through this?

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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