We haven't even filed the paperwork yet, and he's ready to put himself out there. I mean, I figured this was coming eventually, and he told me in order to be honest/transparent about it, which okay, I'm glad for that, but wow, that was quick! Or at least it feels quick to me. Barely 6 months since he was fighting hard against the idea of divorce.
I always figured he'd be ready to date much sooner than me. He was in love with his AP and had nearly 3 year relationship with her, so he has recent experience with all that, unlike me who has had no feelings for anyone but him in 30+ years. Never mind the damage from having my entire reality destroyed. Honestly, right now, I don't want to date anyone and can't see myself becoming interested in it, but I know better than to say never.
I suspect he's been thinking about it or had met someone, because the other week he made a comment about how he's been "socializing a lot - with men, mainly, for now" or something like that, which clued me in that he must be thinking about women. I guess some part of me hoped he'd wait until we were further into the process, especially since we just told our daughter about his cheating a couple weeks ago, or that he'd remain single as evidence of being a changed person.
Ugh, this is why I dislike having hopes. They are continually dashed.