This isn't about cheating. Idk if it's even about R. One of the things we've been talking about a lot in MC is making connections with each other. My H doesn't share really any of himself with me. He's very closed off. I have told him repeatedly that sharing his thoughts, feelings, and experiences with me is very important to me. That's how I feel connection.
I'm a yoga instructor. He came home from PT and asked me to help him with some yoga poses his therapist told him to do. I showed him the ones he asked about and suggested some others that might help. We talked about doing some yoga together. I invited him a couple of times and he passed both times. I told him to lmk when he has time and we'll do it. I didn't hear anymore about it for weeks.
I just asked him if he was avoiding do the yoga with me. It wasn't until after I asked that he told me he was doing it his gym after his workouts. Here I was waiting for him to come to me so we could do it together and he's been doing it without me for weeks, I guess, without a word.
He has done with other things. A while ago, I started rucking. I said I'd like him to do it with me. We went together a few times. One time, I wasn't feeling well and didn't want to go. He went without me. Now, he goes once a month with his gym ruck club (that I set up even though I'm not a member), but not with me.
I'm not sure where I'm going with this. Trying to figure why it bothers me. I know why, but I'm having a hard time putting it into words. I think it's yet another example of him not putting in the effort to rebuild our relationship. He cruises along assuming everything is fine as long as we aren't fighting. Yet another thing that he says he understands in MC, but fails to work on in our daily life.
