Evio (original poster member #85720) posted at 12:22 PM on Tuesday, March 3rd, 2026
On DD my childhood friend who lives abroad happened to message me and I ended up telling her what had happened. She knows my husband, was bridesmaid at our wedding, godmother to our children etc. anyway she sent a couple of messages of support then I heard nothing for 9 months until she asked how I was on my birthday and mentioned 'must he hard to forgive eh?'.
At Christmas she messaged to say she was getting married and asked me to be there. I then received the invite through the post saying only I was invited not my husband.
I politely declined the invite and when she questioned this I explained I couldn't afford to just take myself abroad and would feel socially awkward at a wedding on my own. She then replied 'yeah I thought you might but if (my husband) comes I'd have to say something seeing as what happened lol'.
I'm gutted. She has every right to invite who she wants to her wedding but to know she will basically never accept my husband or my decision to reconcile really stings. And to put lol at the end of the message rubs salt in the wounds. I swear she thinks infidelity is catching as her relationship is far from perfect (she has confided in me he going on all night drinking binges and they haven't been intimate in over a year).
I have no idea how to reply to this. Has anyone else lost friends due to their decision to reconcile?
Me: BW 43 Him: WH 47
DD:16.01.25
2 Year PA/Sexting 13 years ago
Reconciling
"The darkest nights make the brightest stars" 🌌 ✨
Superesse ( member #60731) posted at 12:35 PM on Tuesday, March 3rd, 2026
It is sad but just from what you say, it might be better if you didn't attend a ceremony that is going to tie her to a man that goes
on all night drinking binges and they haven't been intimate in over a year.
She does sound like she is in denial about her own relationship.
