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Hi all,

Fairly new here, dday was under 6 months ago, with the trickle truths still coming more or less. Married for nearly 15 years, found out about affairs that started 8 years ago after the birth of my youngest and have been ongoing until dday. These affairs were all digital (allegedly), short term and consisted of 3 dozen women, all married, all via cheating groups, or forums. I am still completely blindsided but what's worse is finding out that the WH I thought wasn't capable of being thoughtful or putting effort apparently had no issues doing this with literally everyone else. This man let me take care of his parent/grandparents running myself ragged while still parenting our children as a full time working professional in a stressful leadership position and managing my declining mental health as a result but he couldn't be bothered to help because he was too busy chasing anyone who would give him attention? We are both in IC and MC but as I look at our relationship I would think someone was delusional if they told me this about their spouse and still felt that this could get better or be salvageable. He's technically doing the right things,and taking accountability but it's still very self centered driven in guilt. I honestly don't know what I am hoping for but reading so many other experiences about these one off affairs I just feel so lonely (not that either is better) I have no idea how to navigate any of this. Thanks for listening