Raven25 (original poster new member #86953) posted at 3:56 PM on Friday, May 8th, 2026
I've been having a lot of anxiety the past few days. Monday was MC and typically after weekends I experience some lows. This week I have tried really hard to not explode like I typically do. I did have an explosive moment Tuesday during WH work day where he hung up on me. It wasn't really discussed after. I have felt my anxiety building since. Weds I was feeling really distanced and mentioned feeling needy. In my try to be calm but honest the feedback from WH felt lacking. He kind of just said he understands but we went through the evening like normal. Thursday I mentioned feeling a lot of anxiety and got "maybe exercise or something".
I feel like the "I'm sorry"s are getting less genuine, I feel like he has zero curiosity about my pain. We are almost 5 months from initial DDay. I don't understand how I can be so vulnerable and even when calm I don't get my needs met. I hear his responses and it just feels like he is heavily avoiding talking about the A. I don't know how to get through to him what I need is emotional attunement, some curiosity about my feelings, depth and vulnerability. Am I asking for too much? I am terrified he is so over taking about the affair and craves normalcy so badly that he's again displaying putting his comfort above mine.
