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The other day I found a box of cards from another woman under the bed. Very romantic. Talking about true love and spending every Christmas together for the rest of their lives. He's adamant she is just a friend. A year ago he said he'd leave me if we didn't have therapy but at the time he was already seeing her. Not sure what to do. He left in February but said he might take me back. He's still in the family home spending time with me as normal. I've found so much evidence but he won't confess.

If you need more evidence get phone and bank account records.
He is a cake eater. Time to take control. You need to find out if the OW has a husband or partner and let them know. You have proof.
Also, see a lawyer.
More will be along and have better ideas.
I’m so sorry.

So why do you NEED a confession? You may want one (I totally would), But you have all the evidence you need- marriage is not.trial jury where you need to prove something without a doubt and convince a jury. He’s been cheating. He;s gaslighting you and wanted you to go to MC so he could claim he did everything he could for your M (except stop seeing his AP).

And why should he confess? What happens if he doesn’t? Nothing, it appears. He gets to have you and his AP if he doesn’t confess, so why confess to anything?

And he left the house. Does that not tell you enough?

I am so sorry you are going through this. But I think you need to consider him gone and start taking care of yourself.
See a lawyer or three. Get yourself in IC. Get STD testing.

And start detaching from him. You can’t R if he is already checked out, my friend. It is so hurtful I know. But you can get through this. You deserve better.