TrashPanda7 (original poster new member #86753) posted at 3:50 PM on Saturday, May 30th, 2026
Just like title says. I've made the decision to divorce. Feel good about the decision, but don't personally feel great at the moment.
Any advice on transition, specifically with a toddler?
[This message edited by TrashPanda7 at 3:51 PM, Saturday, May 30th]
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 4:09 PM on Saturday, May 30th, 2026
I remember the feeling that day I made the same decision. It's terrifying and liberating all at the same time.
No advice about the kid since I never had any, but welcome to the other side!
Big hugs.
Onward.
FF
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
TrashPanda7 (original poster new member #86753) posted at 4:11 PM on Saturday, May 30th, 2026
Thank you. Liberating is a good way to put it.
homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 4:52 PM on Saturday, May 30th, 2026
Definitely see an atty b4 you tell your WS. In fact I saw 3 different ones and got a lot of very useful advice. My state still has lifetime alimony, children cannot be overnight with girlfriend/boyfriends, and the divorce can be fast when adultery is involved. North Carolina is a state in which BS can sue the OW/OM for loss of consortium.
As far as visitation, include Halloween and July 4 as well as Christmas and NYE for holidays that each parent gets every other year.
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
