BackfromtheStorm recently started a thread wondering what character traits, if any, most or all betrayed spouses had in common.
I've wondered about this notion for most of my time on SI and I've yet to identify any one trait that we all share.
A few moments ago, I was encouraging a new member to trust his instincts when I had a "light bulb" moment.
(Yes, even I have them from once in while)
Our instincts are powerful. It seems to me that our subconscious minds might very well be far more cognizant than we give them credit.
How many times have members berated themselves for missing red flags, feeling "stupid" for not trusting their instincts?
It seems ubiquitous.
Now, granted, this may very well be just another aspect of the human condition, perfectly applicable to all sorts of situations in life, not just in regards to infidelity. Still, I'm curious.
How powerful are our instincts? Did you listen to them? Did you ignore, dismiss or otherwise minimize them?
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
