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I’m about 18 months out, and my husband is doing —therapy, support group, listening to my pain, more responsibility at home and with the kids. There are gifts, flowers, tea, affection, plans and thoughtful gestures. I see all of it.

I also know that I’m often not able to receive or accept much of it.

But I still feel like what’s missing is the overwhelming abundance of love?

It hasn’t been nothing. But it hasn’t been so abundant, spontaneous and unmissable that I feel overwhelmed by how deeply I’m loved. I

I am not in any way reconciled and am trying to see if I can feel something that will make the pain of staying, less than the pain of less leaving. And I wonder if a feeling of overwhelming love is what it needs to be?

was feeling profoundly loved part of what eventually made staying possible ?

I know it’s frustrating advice to hear- but only you will be able to know deep down if you want to stay or not. Either decision would be painful but your body knows the truth- pay attention to what you’re feeling over time. Personally I am feeling that my partner really does love me and is trying to show me love, and that makes it all the more confusing trying to equate that with their actions. I think a big part of being cheated on is that underlying feeling of -they must not love me enough- and i don’t know if that ever goes away.. especially after they already make the choice once to choose someone else over you and your wellbeing. It sounds like he is putting in some work but that doesn’t mean you will ever feel loved by him again. Reconciliation is something you try but it doesn’t mean it will always work. You still have the choice to decide if it’s worth it for you or not or if you want to move on , regardless of whatever work he puts in. I hope you find some clarity !