joecardinals (original poster member #69564) posted at 3:03 AM on Friday, November 13th, 2026
In May, my family went out of town. I am the affair victim originally, but she did everything right. She has been faithful. For years, she has been open and transparent. Things got better. She made amends, and I thought I was good. When the family went out of town, I invited an acquaintance to my home. I was very drunk, and we had a one night stand. Before my wife's affair years before, I never would or could have done such a thing. I'm was and still am numb to it all. She cheated on me for 2.5 years, and I thought I healed from it. I have not. Her AP was someone I considered a friend. Not looking for sympathy or even advice. I'm still angry, I'm still hurt, I'm still cynical and still a little paranoid. I love my wife more than anything.
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GotTheMorbs ( member #86894) posted at 3:08 AM on Friday, November 13th, 2026
How long ago did the ONS happen, and have you confessed?
ETA: Sorry, I just re-read the title and saw it says "a few months ago." Duh! 
[This message edited by GotTheMorbs at 3:10 AM, Friday, November 13th]
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