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jrc1963

Me: BSO - 53Him: FWSO - 76 DS - 20 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Becoming an empty nester

How did you handle it?

My son, who is just barely 20 years old, is moving 1100 miles away to live in my grandmother's old house. While he plans to work full time and establish residency in the state so he can qualify for in-state tuition at the University there.

He's my only kid... he's been glued to my side since he popped outta me 20 years ago. We cook together, shop together, go on vacations together, go out to eat together. He does as much work around the house as me and FWSO.... He's FWSOs right hand man in the garage and doing home repairs and lawn work.

It's time for him to go be on his own... I know it is.

I don't even know what to ask here... I just want to know how others have handled it?

17 comments posted: Friday, September 17th, 2021

T.E.N.S Unit for back pain

Has anyone ever bought a TENS unit for use at home to deal with Sciatic back pain?

I'm looking to get one but I'd love to hear any recommendations before I shell out the $. They're about 35$ on Amazon (which isn't a big deal of money for me) but I'd like to hear if anyone's got a favorite before I bite the bullet and get one.

4 comments posted: Sunday, September 5th, 2021

Vent or Explode... I choose Vent!

My little family has been planning a trip back to Michigan since the end of May. We leave tomorrow at 6am, driving.

FWSO has known about this trip since the END of May.... So, of course, we are doing all those last minute packing things and getting ready... and he pops out with "I wish we had one more day..."

Me: "One more day for???"

FWSO: "A day to relax from packing before we leave..."

Me:

I didn't say anything else... because why start a big, hairy fight... but if he wanted a day to relax before taking off... why did he sit on his big hind end all day Saturday and not pack? I mean... if he had packed and done all his shit on Saturday then he could've relaxed all day Sunday!! Right?

Besides - He mostly watched Baseball all day today anyway... I'm the one who finished all the cleaning, packed our *his and mine* clothes and toiletries and medications. All he has to do is pack his personal tech gear and take care of his own little whatevers that will make him feel comfortable (locking all the toolboxes that are in the house and garage).

I even made an actually 4th of July dinner.

My DS who is going to be 20 in September did a butt ton of work too.

I'm not saying that FWSO didn't do stuff to get ready for this trip... he just didn't do as much... and now he needs a day to relax???

thanks for listening.

3 comments posted: Sunday, July 4th, 2021

Friend or Frienemy?

I've known this woman for 4 years now. We worked together at a school for 3 years, then I moved on to a different school and she's moved to Texas. (from Florida).

We have been fairly friendly for the past 4 years. She and I have the same sense of humor and taste in movies and stuff. We text daily... and talk on the phone frequently.

She moved to Texas last June but we probably talk as much now as we did when we were teaching together.

She is traveling with her family (Hubby and 2 teenage boys) back to Florida next week to visit and go to her favorite vacation spot. She asked/assumed that she would be able to do her family's laundry at my house. I don't entertain people at my house because it's a mess and I don't really have room for people. No where to sit or anything. Plus - FWSO is uncomfortable around other people... AND that's the weekend right before I leave for my trip to Michigan so I'll be busy packing and cleaning.

Anyway - now she's pissed at me for telling her NO! She doesn't tell me she's pissed. She just stops texting or only gives one word answers when I text her. (this isn't the first time she's been P/A on text).

I don't feel bad about my decision not to let her wash here... I feel like she's a grown woman and probably should've planned better for her laundry needs...

WWYD?

10 comments posted: Friday, June 25th, 2021

Talk to me about Ambian

My Dr Rx'd Ambian to help me sleep thru the hot flashes and other lovely menopausal irregularities.

Should I take it?

19 comments posted: Tuesday, June 22nd, 2021

Grandma not doing well

My grandma is going on 96. She called me a few weeks ago to tell me she didn't think she could live alone anymore.

She lives in Michigan. I live in Florida. Fortunately, my Uncle, my dad's younger brother, lives about 13 miles from her, so she has someone.

We're planning to go up in a few weeks to see her... I called last night to check in on her and the phone just keep going to a weird vm. So I called my uncle this morning. He told me that Grandma had moved in with him last week. She's going down hill faster than anyone anticipated.

There isn't much in the way of family. Me and my Uncle and my Son are about all she has left. My dad, her older son, and my grandpa are both gone already. She has siblings but they're all about as old as she is.

So, my Uncle has been shouldering the whole burden himself. I feel helpless and hopeless. I can't pack up and move to Michigan right now, as much as I want to. But, my son, who is about to be 20 can ... we are debating this idea. He could be a help to Uncle as he keeps lookout for Grandma and his wife, my aunt who is also incapacitated. My Uncle says Son can live in Grandma's house, rent free, he'd just have to pay utilities.

FWSO is going to shit a kitten when we bring this up to him. (as of now, I think that's the biggest fly in the ointment).

What kinds of things should we consider before going ahead with this?

Also, if you could send out a good word or prayer for my Grandma and my Uncle. I would really appreciate it,.

12 comments posted: Wednesday, June 16th, 2021

I Got A Job

I was hired today by a local Private ESE School... They wanted me last year and I turned tail like a scared rabbit and went back to what was familiar (yet also very toxic) Public School.

I reached out at the end of the school year and asked if they were still interested in me, cause I was still interested in them.

And they were!

I stepped out of my comfort zone and took the job. I think I made the right decision!!

13 comments posted: Tuesday, June 8th, 2021

Atlanta now Boulder, CO

What is going on in this country?

6 days ago 8 people, mostly women, mostly Asian-American were gunned down in Atlanta area.

Now - a shooting at a Boulder, CO Supermarket - multiple people dead.

I greave for our country...

22 comments posted: Monday, March 22nd, 2021

Work Sucks... But I'm Stuck

I have been casually trying for other jobs... but with Covid and the job market in Florida being what it is... I'm stuck.

As the sole financial source for our family, I don't really have the luxury of saying "Fuck It" and walking away.

I don't know why I'm posting this... maybe looking for sympathy? Maybe looking for possible solutions?

Hit me... whatcha got?

12 comments posted: Saturday, February 27th, 2021

W.W.Y.D?

What would you do/think if a friend always expected you to help them with personal and career issues, but they never helped you?

[This message edited by jrc1963 at 9:26 PM, January 8th (Friday)]

12 comments posted: Friday, January 8th, 2021

New Year's Eve Bar Thread

I'm drinking ...

started with Proseco with dinner.

Whiskey Sour after dinner.

Moved on to a Cosmo.

Who's with me?

6 comments posted: Thursday, December 31st, 2020

Christmas Night Bar Thread

What's everyone drinking tonight?

Remember when we used to have a Bar thread?

11 comments posted: Friday, December 25th, 2020

Hair Question

I stopped using Mouse in my hair a few weeks ago... I think it was drying my hair out.

But now my hair is all frizzy and thin and fly away!

What can I do to get rid of the frizzies and thin...

Thanks

5 comments posted: Thursday, November 5th, 2020

Thread Killa!!

That's me... the O.T.K.

2 comments posted: Tuesday, April 19th, 2016

A Christmas Bar Thread

Here's what I'm drinking

17 comments posted: Friday, December 25th, 2015

Places to Eat in Chicago

We're a month out from our trip to Chicago!!

I've got the place to stay and good tips on public transit... Woot Woot thanks to Sisoon...

Now I'm looking for eating recommendations...

I've got one already... Walker's Bros. Pancakes (again thanks to Sisoon)

Where else should we try if we want to be adventurous?

Thanks...

PS: Posted this in F & G because... hey... this is where all food discussions belong...

22 comments posted: Saturday, May 2nd, 2015

Snake Thread... Don't look if you're squeamish

Remember my snake visitor from the fall??

Baby

Well, he's all grown up.... This is not an actual picture, I didn't have my phone handy. He was waiting in the garage upon my return home today. Apparently he's been living under my driveway.

Grown Up

27 comments posted: Monday, April 6th, 2015

Hey Meta!!!! Come Look

13 comments posted: Thursday, April 2nd, 2015

Paczki Day

Anyone eating their Paczki's today???

5 comments posted: Tuesday, February 17th, 2015

What's Cooking?

I tend do to a lot of cooking on Sundays to make meals for the week...

Today I made:

Sausage, kale and potato soup

and

Pulled pork from slow cooked pork butt.

What's cooking at your house.

22 comments posted: Sunday, January 11th, 2015

Cooking Funny

My girlfriend got a Rachel Ray cookbook for Christmas...

She just told me she can't find anything in the book that sounds good....

Her: "She uses all these ingredients that we'd never eat"

Me: "Like what?"

Her: "Thyme, Oregano, Parsley, and some cheese I've never heard of..."

Me: "What cheese?"

Her: "parmigian-reggiano, prosciutto, garlic... stuff like that"

I"m dying over here!!

13 comments posted: Saturday, December 27th, 2014

Cookie Party

We did it... I made chocolate chip cookies and spritz cookies.

Others brought a variety of cookies... and although there were only 6 of us baking we ended up with 11 different varieties of cookies.

We had pizza and decorated sugar cookies... well, our DS's did most of the decorating.

It was a nice time.

7 comments posted: Sunday, December 14th, 2014

Christmas Poll

When you eat a gingerbread person (see, no gender bias) do you start:

A) at the head

B) at the feet

C) who cares just gimme the damn thing

21 comments posted: Saturday, December 6th, 2014

Wine Serving Suggestions

Ok...

Big giant wine novice here!!

I bought a Riesling at the suggestion of the wine consultant at the store... now I need to know how to serve it.

Chilled or room temp?

14 comments posted: Wednesday, November 26th, 2014

Pea or Oyster Crabs

Ever seen these?

I found these little suckers in my freshly shucked oysters!!

[This message edited by jrc1963 at 7:48 PM, November 26th (Wednesday)]

3 comments posted: Wednesday, November 26th, 2014

Fresh Brussels Sprouts

Someone... who shall remain nameless... put my fresh brussels sprouts in the freezer when we got home from the store.

Unfortunately I didn't notice right away and they're now frozen.

I need them to make Roasted Brussels Sprouts for T-day... Will they be ok or do I need to buy new ones?

30 comments posted: Monday, November 24th, 2014

Cookie Exchange Ideas

Some friends and I are having a cookie exchange for the holidays...

What kinda cookies would you like if you were going to participate in a cookie exchange?

Also, how many dozens would you make...

There's going to be about 10 people there, give or take.

16 comments posted: Saturday, November 22nd, 2014

Conversation in the J.R.C house

SO: (talking about tools) says "I just need one more punch."

Me: (fist cocked) "Ready"

SO: "Don't be dopey"

Me: "Should I be... Happy, Grumpy, Sleepy, Sneezy, Bashful, or Doc?"

SO: "Grrrrrr"

2 comments posted: Wednesday, November 5th, 2014

Knock

Knock...

16 comments posted: Friday, October 31st, 2014

Tales from the Classroom...

It's that time again... Funny things said by my kids in the classroom!

Episode 1

Student: "Ya know what, I'm just not gonna do your test!"

Me: "Mmmmm Ok... it's your grade, not mine"

Student: "Hurumph"

Episode 2

Student: "I'm not coming to your class today"

Me: "Ok, I get paid regardless."

Student: - no reply.

Episode 3

Student: "I don't need to worry about school, I'm gonna play in the NFL and make Millions"

Me: "Ok, how are you gonna get to the NFL?"

Student: "I'm gonna go to college and play and get drafted."

Me: "How are you gonna get into college if you don't do well in High School?"

Student: "I got money, I can go where ever I want."

Me: - No reply

(This is a student who is 17 and in 9th grade and doesn't even play on any HS football team)

16 comments posted: Wednesday, October 8th, 2014

When the Hell did this happen??

I just spoke this sentence out loud to my family...

"It's been almost 30 years since I was in London."

How did I get old enough for something to be almost 30 years ago???

4 comments posted: Monday, October 6th, 2014

Thread Killa' Round 6.0

The new Turbo Version!

713 comments posted: Friday, October 18th, 2013

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