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PricklePatch

BS Fwh

Realization after 12 years from D Day

We have been reconciled for quiet awhile. His infidelity included happy endings, lap dances and a EA with an in law on his side.

He got off social media shortly after d day. Because grandma and Grandpa were alive we would have a few holidays and a.couple of large summer parties where she would be around. FWH was never her real target it is/ was a cousin.

Grandpa passed away, Grandma shortly there after. We only went to 1 summer party at a different person’s house. He stayed by me and as the summer after Dday, I sat by him and pointed out how she was flirting heavily with various men till the main target the cousin showed up. She would move to very close to him, then start texting. He had immediately gone to hello goodbye and no texting or social media.

Since Covid things have fallen apart, one brother moved, the one with the ho bag wife, said no longer wanted to associate with my husband because he doesn’t enjoy sports and makes no attempt to, nothing in common. Aunt gets no calls from them and the cousin has turned from the family.

I talk to the Aunt about once a month.

My realization is basically no more ho bag in my life. I may see them when Aunt passes. She is ill and told me she thinks she it will be within the year. Being around ho bag hasn’t bothered me in more then 10 years.

I just don’t chose to associate with people in affairs or behaving how ho bag does. We were looking at pictures and this popped into my head.

My FWH and still work on our marriage to make sure it stays healthy and we are happy. I think the best thing we learned is radical honesty not coating reality to save the others feelings. He speaks up when he has feels and so do I. It clears things up.

1 comment posted: Friday, December 2nd, 2022

Sometimes I write posts and erase them

I had a pretty emotional week. I realized a few days ago I will put the post title in and then write this post about whatever. This weeks theme was Long term effects and Covid, my Dad’s hurtful words and my brothers birthday and death day being this week. My brother died on his birthday.

I think I need to go back to IC. I just feel like Debbie Downer! I erase these venting posts.

So on a positive note:

So the good things are my doctor is going to manage my Covid onset diabetes.
It’s open enrollment at H’s company getting better healthcare.
My daughter is getting a kitten tomorrow. So that is exciting.
I paid off a loan.
My sister and I are communicating better.
The leaves are beautiful.
I am trying to build back my strength with walking.

I was able to figure out a diabetic diet by taking a blood sugar and then an hour after eating another one. My food is difficult with my limited food my body tolerates. So this figuring out a food plan was super important.

I think count your blessings is my theme today.

9 comments posted: Saturday, November 5th, 2022

We got a reminder to practice fire and co safety.

At 1am I was awake to let the dog out. Smelled onions, I sauté onions yesterday. I when back to bed was woken up sometime during 4 am hour. To a screaming alarm ADT called said CO alarm is going off evacuate the house. Our house was filled with natural gas. We are all ok.

We were sloppy about waiting till the battery indicator went off before replacing. I was told to do it at time change. So spring head is coming up.
We figured out we need to practice a plan.

9 comments posted: Sunday, March 6th, 2022

Prayers needed

My daughter impulsively grabbed scissors and tried to kill herself. She has been so happy with her fiancé, seeing a future. Sober from cutting for quiet awhile, she asked me not to keep track. She has been on a psych hold. Our whole family in disarray. My breeder held my new service dog. While she was in the hospital I slept walked fell and wedged myself. We had to call first aid.

The good of it is the first time she hasn’t blamed someone else.

I am deeply sorry for missing the card exchange.

My daughter is home. Starting a day program. A dear friend came in to stay with her while her fiancée works so I left to get my new service dog. My service dog allows me safety during the night as I aspirate and many other things.

Thank you all for your kindness.

16 comments posted: Monday, December 13th, 2021

Getting a new service dog this week.

My Malibu died. I got Franny, he is sweet but after neutering he is a chicken. A wreck. We are keeping him. I am getting one of Malibu’s girl’s. She is silver. Crossed fingers she works out. I am praying Fran man doesn’t tell her I am a easy target.

4 comments posted: Friday, November 26th, 2021

Grocery prices

I have been juggling stores to get the best prices on groceries.

My grocery bill has increased more then 50%. The fact my husband is working from home is not a factor. I packed his lunch.

I have found nutritional yeast is 6.89 at the grocery stores. Trader Joe’s is 2.99. We buy Fairlife milk for my daughter. I go to Warehouse store, it is 75 cents less a bottle. Buying my dry goods flour etc at Aldi is a vast difference.

I have been using dry legumes such as chick peas, to make our plant based diet. Daughter is eating meat.

Anyone else have tricks?

18 comments posted: Thursday, August 5th, 2021

Can’t access forums from ipad

I keep getting a 404 code that says redirected to many times.

Can anyone give me a clue what to do please?

4 comments posted: Monday, August 2nd, 2021

Can’t access forums from ipad

I keep getting a 404 code that says redirected to many times.

0 comment posted: Monday, August 2nd, 2021

Dog advice

After losing my service dog last June, my breeder gave me a male. She had tested him out. He was not neutered, I wanted it done at my vet. He bonded quickly to me. However after being neutered he became more and more skittish. He heard a nail gun in Dec and became frightened. He was raised around hunters who did target practice, so he was use to shot guns. We are now at the point he will not go pee in my house has pooped 2 times in the house since October.

The problem is he won’t go out till it’s dark. Tonight we took him out and the women next door were talking he hightailed it back inside. Finally at 1030pm they went inside and I could take him outside. He off leash walks perfectly and has great I get back up at 500am, and take him again. Our fence is not up yet so we walk him. I take my “daughter’s” dog walking about 4 times a day. She decided she couldn’t sleep with him as he keeps her cats up. He is super bonded to My Vampire Dog. Let’s face it her golden retriever is mine as well. I bought him, pay his pet insurance, his training food and care.

I read don’t force them out. After the big fright I lured him out with treats. Anyone else ever have a vampire dog? Or ideas?

[This message edited by PricklePatch at 1:54 AM, June 30th (Wednesday)]

7 comments posted: Wednesday, June 30th, 2021

My Daughter got engaged

Last week my daughter’s boyfriend came to my husband and I and asked for her hand in marriage. After some discussion, mainly about her chronic illness, we gave our blessing.

He told us he was proposing at Disney, in October.

They went to the mall and came home engaged. She was very excited! We were happy for them both.. She showed me her ring it is beautiful. I laughed and said that is a Princess Diana ring, it is a oval sapphire just like Diana’s. It was all very sweet.

She immediately called her Grandpa. We oddly enough had a discussion about her boyfriend yesterday. My husband and I genuinely like him.

Plans for the wedding are for next year.

10 comments posted: Friday, June 11th, 2021

10 years today since Dday

I only know it has been 10 years as it was the Weds, before Memorial Day. It hasn’t been a blip on my radar. What a difference hard work and time makes.

I love him to bits, he continues to see his IC weekly. Now it centers around his and our child’s relationship. I seen growth in both of us. I remember for a long time everything irritated me. Now not so much. He has been working home for 15 months. We actually enjoy it. When he gets off work. He walks the dog. Have dinner, spend time reading or playing games, some tv. We walk our dogs of 11pm or 12 am.

We take a minute if there is a problem and then discuss it.

We celebrated our 25th anniversary, recently. I didn’t think we would make it, at times. We did!

I don’t think we would have if it weren’t for SI.

[This message edited by PricklePatch at 2:24 AM, May 26th (Wednesday)]

3 comments posted: Wednesday, May 26th, 2021

help sprint text messages.

My Dd was physically and sexually assaulted the now ex boyfriend confessed in a string of text messages last week. My Dd was so upset seeing his name undid her and she deleted them. The police want them for proof that this is not a he said she said.

Any clue as to how to recover them would be appreciated.

She is btw getting the emotional medical help she needs.

4 comments posted: Wednesday, November 29th, 2017

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