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D: 7/2/2014

Homemade dog food

Disclaimer: The internet sucks. With that said, does anyone know of any legitimate internet sites, or books, with recipes for dog food approved by the Association of American Feed Control Officials (AAFCO), or by accredited veterinarian dietitians? I'm not interested in any other recipes because most aren't IAW what is nutritionally sound for dogs.

0 comment posted: Monday, March 22nd, 2021

Trigger? Vent

I was going to post in OT but realize it's probable better to post here.

I was heading to pick up my dog. The light turned green. I waited 2 seconds while seeing if anyone was still driving through the lanes. I was clear. There was a car coming, but it had plenty of time to stop. I pressed on the gas and made it to the middle lane. I immediately slammed on my breaks and made my body relax for the impact. I'd seen out of my peripheral that the car was still coming.

She hit the front end of my vehicle and kept going for several feet while spinning. At first, I wasn't even sure if she'd hit me because my car jerked from me slamming on the breaks so hard and fast, but then my hood came up halfway and steam was coming out. I still had the green light, so I grabbed my purse and jumped out and got to the safety of the median.

Fast forward to when the first responders and police got there. She tries to blame her dog with her. "I'm so sorry, it was the dog's fault. He wouldn't stop barking."

Turns out, she had no driver's license, no insurance. But all of this was the dog's fault because he put a gun to her head and made her get behind the wheel of the car without a driver's license and without any auto insurance. He then made her ignore other drivers and the traffic light.

I went back in time for a half second. It was like a flashback. All I could see were all the times my ex had blamed everyone else but himself. He was always the victim. None of the consequences had anything to do with his own choices and his own actions. God help me, I started walking in her direction to beat her ass. I got it together and made myself turn around, it probably helped that there were still 3 police officers between us.

The rage I felt when she refused to accept responsibility is indescribable. I started shaking. Not because I could have died if I hadn't slammed on my breaks, not from adrenaline, not from seeing my vehicle utterly trashed, but from a long ago event that I thought had no more weight to effect me, a trigger from infidelity.

The cherry on top was when her boyfriend arrived and started calling ME a fucking bitch. Seriously!

Not sure if I need to work some more on myself. I dont even think about Xhole anymore. All of that infidelity stuff seemed like it happened to another person a long time ago until today.

And, yet, today, the rage ingelt for a complete stranger (albeit one who almost killed me), was pure trigger from days gone by of a man who couldn't own his shit and take responsibility for his own choices and actions. FML

On the positive side, I walked out. I'm not seriously hurt, and I do feel like a guardian angel was with me today. If I hadn't slammed on the brakes, if I hadn't waited 2 seconds, she would have completely T boned me and I'd be in the hospital or dead right now. I guess I'd rather be dealing with a trigger. Huh, I haven't had a trigger in about 5 years.

[This message edited by StillLivin at 1:29 AM, March 29th (Sunday)]

5 comments posted: Saturday, March 28th, 2020

My Cousin Update

A few years ago, about 2.5 (???), I posted about my cousin in an extremely physically abusive marriage. Her husband was also blatantly cheating, but that wasn't even close to the worst of her trauma. Unfortunately, she didn't leave until he choked her and left her for dead. That was finally her wake up call. She left, he did time for attempted murder, blag bekah blah.

Yesterday she called me upset. Her live in boyfriend that she was talking marriage with was cheating on her. Of course she was crushed. But you know what she wasn't,? She wasn't sticking around. Right now it's "only" an emotional affair (we all know emotional is just as hurtful), but she doesnt care. She has conviction and she knows that this shit isn't fucking acceptable. She went apartment shopping today. Man I'm so proud of this beast young lady. She's come so far. She called for my advice and support. During the conversation she thanked me for being real but not brutal. She also told me I am always right with my advice and that's why she comes to me. I won't sugarcoat a bunch of BS but I'll hold her hand while she's processing the truth.

I love this kid.

7 comments posted: Wednesday, February 19th, 2020

Good books on npd to recommend to a friend

A dear friend described her X. He sounds classic NPD, but I've only ever read my psych books for classes and sold them at the end of the course.

Any suggestions on informative books and how to navigate gray rock, etc?

2 comments posted: Wednesday, May 10th, 2017


I'm moving in November. So throw me some ideas what and where in the Phoenix and surrounding area would be good for a G2G in June or July!

6 comments posted: Saturday, May 7th, 2016

Tucson G2G

The last couple of G2Gs were in Phoenix, so figure it's time to switch it up.

Who is game for a G2G say mid May to Mid June timeframe?

Some have already suggested a few things. Usually we have done dinner, so also want to plan an activity this time.

Visiting the caverns, hiking, shopping, and going to the zoo have been suggested.

I'm for the visiting the caverns and then having a BBQ at my house or another member's home. It never gets above 70 degrees, which will be a nice respite from the desert heat that time of the year.

We are open to suggestion.

Please post and state available dates and any other suggestions.

18 comments posted: Thursday, April 30th, 2015

Just wanting to know

when are we going to the Christmas d├ęcor on SI (said in my whiniest voice possible)?????

I love Christmas, have I mentioned that before?

Just saying/asking?

[This message edited by StillLivin at 12:15 PM, November 28th (Friday)]

17 comments posted: Friday, November 28th, 2014


Anybody up for another AZ G2G? It's a little hot right now but thinking Step/Oct would be cooler and perfect for a G2G. Was thinking dinner and maybe dancing this time.

28 comments posted: Monday, July 28th, 2014

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