Infidelity is everywhere…..
When I went through my dday nearly seven years ago, I was fortunate to have a good friend of mine going through something similar, so we were able to bounce things off each other through a difficult time for both of us. He suspected infidelity in his 20+ year marriage breakdown but never really had any evidence. His wife just up and left the family one day. I found out about my WW’s A’s about a week after. Going through this really brought us closer together.
He has since remarried and has been going through issues with his new wife. She has alcohol issues and has since day 1. The alcoholism has been getting worse and worse, and seems it has come to a head.
I met with him Saturday since we haven’t seen each other for 3 months or so. We spent a great day just catching up laughing about our past together. We spent a lot of time discussing how his relationship is going. It isn’t going well.
I gave him advise I would expect he would give to me and I left letting him know to call me anytime, I’d be there for him.
Well, I woke up Sunday AM to a social media post (from him) posting about his marriage being over and how she is cheating. He did mention to me (Saturday) that she has gotten physical with him while she was drunk and I immediately thought of SI, and said "make sure to record any interactions so you protect yourself". Even said consider installing cameras in the home to document your interactions so she can’t claim DV. I don’t think she would pull this kind of stunt but you never know and better to be safe than sorry.
All I can do is be there for him. He’s going through a bunch of other crap too at the moment and I know how debilitating infidelity can be. I feel so bad for him, infidelity is truly everywhere
12 comments posted: Monday, June 20th, 2022