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20yrsagoBS

BW, 54 WH 53 When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with fleas

Daily Life Living with a Narrcissist

I thought it might help others if we posted some activities we experience being married to people who demonstrate narcissistic tendencies, or who have been officially diagnosed as narcissists. My former therapist told me my WH definitely demonstrates narcissistic tendencies. WH denies this

This week, my work has been demanding. WH likes to call me around 11 am to "check in". It usually involves him talking about how busy he is, how overwhelmed he feels, etc. I usually humor chin. Not this week. I cut him off, tell him I’m too overwhelmed with my own work to listen to him talk about his. Yesterday he got mad and hung up on me.

Okay. I let it go. I focused on my work.

This morning he started grumbling about his workday ahead. Instead of being sympathetic, I told him my plan to wrap up a challenging work week. He stopped vin his tracks, then asked if I just didn’t want to hear him discuss his work difficulties. I told him I was focused on my own work, not his.

He just stormed out the door to drive to work

What’s your experience like interacting with your narcissist?

33 comments posted: Monday, December 12th, 2022

Sincere Apology?

How do/did you differentiate from more stonewalling?

2 comments posted: Thursday, October 13th, 2022

Pinpointing When The Infidelity Started

I believe WH started lying to my when we started dating

Those lies, conflict avoidance, and porn all created a perfect storm for the evil to take root


Similar for yours?

11 comments posted: Tuesday, July 26th, 2022

Depression and Rage

My WH has a volatile temper.

Lots of complaining, ranting, bellyaching


He’s always been like this. His father and brothers too


I’m a fixer, not a complainer, so I don’t understand it


Shouldn’t someone who behaves this way be mandated to seek help?


Ugh

4 comments posted: Wednesday, June 1st, 2022

Intimacy and Cheating

When one person in a marriage chooses to cheat, doesn’t the truth intimacy between the marriage parties disintegrate?


I mean, if you’re actively choosing to lie and cheat, that’s a lack of integrity

Aren’t integrity and intimacy interdependent?

8 comments posted: Wednesday, April 20th, 2022

Tile

I bought these little things off A*****, they came in a package of four. I put on in WH’s car! It’s called the Tile Sticker. I downloaded their app, made it mute the sound, and it even gives a location history. No monthly fee. It’s a GPS tracker!

I put one in my wallet, one in my purse, so I can locate those too.

The purse and wallet don’t lie to me though.

If you press the button on a Tile that isn’t muted, it will ring your cell phone, even when your phone is on silent.

1 comment posted: Friday, October 25th, 2019

An Offer

I just read in another forum, of a cheater forcing a BS to sign a non disclosure agreement to not tell the OBS about the affair.

Here’s MY offer. Need an OBS told about your WS’s affair?

Pm me with the information.

You know I will!

And will report back with the results.

Fuck this Infidelity Bullshit! What happened to being human beings first?

9 comments posted: Wednesday, October 9th, 2019

Open a Second Facebook Account

I discovered that WH’s family has me blocked from my regular account.

He never did tell them he lied to me and about his sneakiness a few years ago.

So, they probably think I am just insane. So what?

If something happens to my WH’s parents, I would be left out of the chain of communication, then blamed for not knowing about it in the first place.

I also discovered a hypothetical former friend who pretended to be a faithful wife, was “angry” that my WH cheated. She’s a cheater too! Her AP left her last year. Boohoo!

Anyway, if your family is plagued by drama, like my outlaws, maybe make a second account, go take a look!

0 comment posted: Friday, October 4th, 2019

Members in Florida!

Let’s plan a Get 2 Gether!

Since we’re in Florida, it HAS to be the best!

PM if you want in on planning this.

Where should we have it?

What activities?

When?

Who do we invite? Do we allow non Floridian members to attend?

If you’ve attended a G2G before, even out of state, care to share your experience?

3 comments posted: Saturday, September 14th, 2019

GPS Fell Off!

The gps I purchased and affixed to our car, fell off! It still shows up on a local highway, battery at 39%! I deserve an F grade in sleuthing

14 comments posted: Saturday, November 3rd, 2018

Brain Teaser?

Please delete

[This message edited by 20yrsagoBS at 7:39 PM, November 12th (Monday)]

0 comment posted: Wednesday, October 24th, 2018

Spyware Google Pixel?

Any good ones?

1 comment posted: Friday, February 9th, 2018

Possibly Stupid Question about VOice Activated Recorders

I bought a new Sony VAR, have it all charged up, can get it to record if I manually press the RECORD button. So how does it record if I place it in WH's car unless I am there to press that button?

2 comments posted: Friday, April 21st, 2017

Whoops!

I purchased an inexpensive little RFID doohickey to GPS my WH. I slipped it into his backpack last night, then promptly forgot I did that. So I looked for it frantically today to no avail.

WH saw me unwrap it and pair it to my phone last night. Tonight he asked me if it worked well. I told him I misplaced it last night and couldn't find it since. It has this feature that you can make it beep from the app. But it has to be in range. I could not hear it beep at all today. WH goes into his backpack to retrieve some postage stamps, and finds the tile. He works in a secured workplace, so would be in deep trouble if caught bringing a bluetooth device into work.

He has an Android, so FindMyIphone won't work. I thought this was a good substitute, but it isn't, obviously.

Rats!

1 comment posted: Tuesday, December 6th, 2016

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