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Lea Me: BW Married 34 years, 3 DS DDay #1: March 26, 2018, DDay #2 8/26/2019 Filed for D: 11/16/2020 D Final: 2/25/2021

Engine started on the karma bus

I wasn't painshopping.... Oldest DS came over to vent. XH showed up Labor Day weekend with no warning, schmoopie in tow. (XH now lives in another state, 9 hours away and is engaged.)

Schmoopie had a dream that he was cheating on her, and woke up screaming at him.

She had a dream that XH was a woman, so kept checking his "package" to make sure he was a he.

According to DS, XH was an emotional vampire and drained the life blood from DS.

4 comments posted: Monday, September 13th, 2021

XH moving 9 hours away

Well, it's been an interesting weekend for my adult kids.

XH is moving to another state and will be 9 hours away. He's leaving on Monday. Last weekend, XH didn't give boys much notice and expected them to come help him pack. They were pissed.

SIL had Father's Day bbq on Saturday. He brought his new GF that he's moving in with, even though SIL and my boys said no, it's too soon. XH brought her anyway. Underscored how selfish he really is.

He's leaving in the morning, and I'm glad. I am sad because my oldest said that when XH is in an accident or is really ill, he'll have to go 9 hours to help out. That piece of it makes me sad.

I'm glad because now I won't be anxious about running into him in town. I already knew he would leave me to tell everybody about the divorce anyway.

How did I find out he was moving? Epic, really. I went to the coffee shop we've gone to for years. XH goes every day, so and I go 1-2 times per month. The barista says, "Hey! I hear you're moving soon." I said that I wasn't and gave her the real story.

Yes, XH is a covert narc & this is typical. Let people assume things by not telling the entire truth.

The important things are the kids see I'm working on healing and tying to move forward in a healthy way, and I'm not going to abandon them. As I saw mentioned on another thread, the size of his world is the circumference of his penis.

So glad to be out of infidelity.

9 comments posted: Sunday, June 20th, 2021

Antiversary 3 and Thanks SI

Three years ago today, I saw the videos that blew up my life and my SIL'S life.

My advice? Have IC with a betrayal specialist, get meds from your doctor to help. Focus on you, because you've probably neglected you for so long. R is hard and only works in few scenarios.

4 comments posted: Friday, March 26th, 2021

Divorce final today

Got the call from Family Court a little bit ago. The judge signed the papers, so we're now officially divorced. Only delayed about a week, and now I can quit stressing about when the call will come.

I'm sad, scared, happy & hopeful all at the same time. Glad it's over.

11 comments posted: Thursday, February 25th, 2021

Delay in D for Paperwork

Well, it's really due to the COVID-19 precautions. I had my call with the court facilitator yesterday. She filled out the final findings and facts. She is snail mailing me the form that STBXWH and I have to sign and return. The facilitator will get the paperwork before the judge, then an assistant will give me a call when it's finished.

So, it won't be a Zoom call and it probably won't be this Friday. Well, at least I won't need to worry about being stuck with the kitten filter on.

I'm disappointed in the delay, but it shouldn't be too much longer.

1 comment posted: Wednesday, February 17th, 2021

Sold House & Filed D Papers

We signed the papers to sell the house this morning. In 90 days, we'll be officially finished. The date for the zoom meeting with the judge is February 19.

We're heading into more restrictions due to COVID, so I wanted to make sure to get things finished. We lucked out that our closing was scheduled for this morning because things are shutting back down at midnight tonight.

Anyway, almost to the finish line on this thing.

On the other hand, this weekend I found some fake popcorn & cranberry garland. He never wanted to have something like that on the tree, even though I did. I put my tree up this weekend & strung the garland on it. I am going to have my grandson come over & help me decorate and start a new tradition.

3 comments posted: Monday, November 16th, 2020

First Christmas after separation/divorce

I'm getting ready to file for D, and will after our house sells. I'm good friends with my SIL, but feeling some anxiety about the situation.

I can do Thanksgiving because the STBXWH will work part of the day, but he has Christmas off. I don't know if I can do this.

Do you have any advice?

13 comments posted: Thursday, October 15th, 2020

Felt happy today

This may sound like a weird topic, but today I was happy. No sorrow or pain for the first time in a long, long time. I was humming a happy tune, focused on what my body was telling me and realized I was happy.

And you know what? I let myself dwell there for awhile and just - be happy.

8 comments posted: Thursday, October 8th, 2020

Torn Asunder

Has anybody read Torn Asunder and the workbook? How did you do with it - helpful/not helpful?

I started reading, but the first story is by the OW & I triggered badly. Don't know if I should continue or not.


0 comment posted: Tuesday, July 17th, 2018

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