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"True character is revealed in the choices a human being makes under pressure. The greater the pressure, the deeper the revelation, the truer the choice to the character's essential nature."

BH: 50, WW: 49 Wed: Feb.'96 DDAY1: 12.20.16 DDAY2: 12.23.19

Mod please

Thanks.

1 comment posted: Monday, July 11th, 2022

Discuss: SI Lexicon

I've noticed that terms first developed here at SI or within the community of betrayed spouses (like hopium, cake eating, and gaslighting) have been adopted into the broader cultural lexicon. I find this an interesting development.

For instance, you're seeing terms like "gaslighting" and "hopium" now applied to the Russian-Ukraine situation.

I wouldn't say such terms were exclusive to the betrayed community, but they really saw their first full application and development on message boards like SI when discussing infidelity in the first two decades of the 21st century.

I wonder if others have noticed this.

7 comments posted: Tuesday, March 1st, 2022

Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey

Probably most betrayed spouses would benefit from reading or listening to the new book, "Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey" by Florence Williams, a science journalist, written after the author's husband left her after a 25-year marriage. Fresh Air on NPR featured the book earlier this month. Check it out.

0 comment posted: Tuesday, February 8th, 2022

Mod please

Thanks in advance!

2 comments posted: Friday, February 4th, 2022

Moving over here

I've been in the Reconcilation forum for the last year and now I'm moving over here. More of my story is here:

https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=640195

I told my WW I want a divorce last night, so I'm trying to think about the best tangible steps I need to take now. The die is cast, as they say.

I know not everyone would lead with telling WW "I want a divorce" but it's how I've done it. I want an amicable mediated settlement, if possible, and right now that looks like a strong possibility. I want a 50/50 split on our youngest child (our older child is now an adult and is 18) so we can be good co-parents. I also want to walk away without having to pay alimony. Just a clean split of assets down the middle.

I realize I will probably not get everything I want. I also realize things could turn nasty if my WW develops a sense of injustice or decides to violate my trust again by preemptively filing or whatever. I have no intention of doing that to her and my greatest hope is simply to work on this together.

Where are good checklists, things I need to be thinking about aside from the usual "go see an atty" which yes, I will be doing.

296 comments posted: Tuesday, August 4th, 2020

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