Me BW - Married 20 years
Him - 2 Affairs 9 years apart
DDay October-December 2019 & July 2020
I have lost hope in reconciliation, my reality has been dismissed too many times. I need to trust my gut and get off this roller coaster. I agreed to go back to counseling with the purpose of ending things peacefully and making things as easy on the kids as possible. Unlike our 2 previous MC we have tried she’s stopped him from diverting the conversation and turning it into something completely different, it’s a nice change but, the’s still trying to change it into MC and thinks I’m giving up too soon. I’m hearing a lot of blame and not enough accountability. I’m in no way perfect not going to pretend I am but, um, when trying to convince me to stay is probably not the best time to bring that up.
It’s going to be at least a few months before I can do things like move out or pay a lawyer. He told me he’s going to be in the denial and bargaining phase until I leave. He’s demonstrating this quite well. It’s making it really hard to make plans and do what I need to do while he’s moping around and trying to convince me I still love him. Maybe I do still love him I definitely care and don’t wish him harm or anything but staying sure as hell isn’t good for my mental health.
7 comments posted: Saturday, July 23rd, 2022
Carpal Tunnel release surgery
So, after putting it off for way too long I’m getting both hands done soon. I need recovery stories good, bad and ugly. I want to know what I’m getting myself into.
13 comments posted: Friday, May 21st, 2021
How to talk to daughter about scratches on her arm.
She’s picking at her skin until it bleeds. If asked why she shuts down and tries to hide it. She’s OK with me talking to her about the importance of keeping it clean. I want her to know it’s OK to talk to me.
5 comments posted: Friday, April 23rd, 2021
Brene Brown shame-addiction connection
I’ve listened to enough of her books to forget where I found it. She talks about the connection between shame and addiction and how they are so connected it’s impossible to tell which comes first. Anyone know where to find it?
5 comments posted: Saturday, March 13th, 2021
Is there a way to check the browser history?
3 comments posted: Thursday, February 4th, 2021