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Will another shoe drop 36 years later

I split up with my serial cheating ex-WW 36 years ago. Our son was three at the time. Recently I became obsessed with having my son's paternity confirmed. I don't see much of a resemblance between the two of us. It took some work, but I finally got my son to submit a DNA sample to Ancestry DNA. I was less than honest as to my motives, but I think my son has probably figured out why I have been persistent in my request.

So I am waiting for the results which should arrive shortly. I don't know how I will react, but I have been preparing myself for the worst. I have even done a little research on whether I could successfully file a cause of action against the ex-wife. It seems that such a lawsuit would be based on inflicting emotional distress. Has anyone ever heard of such lawsuits? Were they successful?

56 comments posted: Sunday, June 6th, 2021

At war again 36 years later

This is more of a vent than a request for advice. Similar experiences would be welcomed.

My story has been repeated numerous times on SI. Basically, the ex-WW had two major affairs and possibly a number of ONS or short affairs. We have been divorced 35 years, separated 36 years this May. We have a child and grandchildren that we share so our lives have been intertwined for quite some time. She has made a special effort to keep them unnecessarily intertwined. We reached an accommodation some time ago where I buried all my resentment for the sake of my child. Well, some time ago she decided to go on a campaign to badmouth me behind my back. It became especially nasty over the last year or so. There was absolutely no justification for her behavior. I got wind of her new narrative as to what went on in our marriage and what kind of person I am and decided to go NC. We haven't talked in a year, but through the grapevine, I heard that she was peeved at me for not calling her to check on how she was handling her COVID infection. She recovered but continued to complain that I have not called her. Well, I was tipped off that she would be calling me soon and to be prepared. Sure enough, she did. I decided not to answer her and, instead, send her an email basically telling her I want NC between the two of us from this point forward. I chose doing it by email because we probably would have ended up screaming at each other over the phone. It was a rather self-effacing email designed to avoid any conflict but make my request for NC perfectly clear.

Well, as I expected, her response was not very cheery. It was arrogant, self-righteous, and basically something you would expect from a narcissistic low empathy WW. I briefly responded with a little more bite this time. I don't know if she will respond, but I am pissed for a number of reasons. It has opened up old wounds. This shit seems to never end, but I am extremely motivated to completely end all communication with this ex-wife once and for all. I just received a call from my source that has told me she has dragged my son into this mess. I am livid. Has anyone else had to deal with a whacked-out ex-WW so many years later?

14 comments posted: Monday, May 10th, 2021

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