Newest Member: Ozymandias


Alcohol rears it's ugly head again...

I'm about 15 months post-DD and recently WS decided he wanted to go solo skiing trip in our camper. He's been sober for about 6 months, so both our therapist and I didn't think this was a good idea, but he was hell-bent on going. Sadly, that night, I discovered he had used two different credit cards to access some site called Arousr? When I looked this up, it appears to be some type of porn chat site? When he returned home the next day, it was clear he had been drinking the night before, and claimed that "he blacked out and doesn't even know what happened." I have a hard time believing that since he used two different credit cards to access these sites.
Our MC says this is akin to another DD. Even worse, the fact that he fell this hard off the wagon, leads me to believe we're back to square one.

Is anyone here with a spouse who struggles with alcohol and infidelity? In looking at his search history, this was not the first time he'd been on these sites before his EA/PA in 2021. I don't think he's a sex addict, but for some reason when he drinks, porn and sex appear to be something he looks for. He's now acknowledging he needs better/more help, but not sure he's really committed to this.

7 comments posted: Saturday, January 7th, 2023

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