So, literally just found out
My wife and I have had a few issues recently, we separated nearly 2 years ago because she was having an emotional affair with a colleague which led to them swapping explicit photo's and messages. We reconciled but obviously my trust was destroyed.
Things seemed to be improving until one day I get a message from a complete stranger on Facebook containing explicit photos of my wife, I had seen them all but there were 2 that I hadn't which weren't explicit but a little provocative, which he claimed she had sent to him. When challenged she claimed that he must have hacked her WhatsApp and she posted the 2 other photo's on Facebook but deleted them because she didn't like them. I've never fully believed her but I kept going with our marriage.
For Christmas I bought her a new phone and after she transferred everything across she put her old phone away, she fell asleep so I grabbed her old phone and took to the toilet because I simply didn't trust her anymore & I found an explicit video and 2 photo's in her WhatsApp images that were dated last week, but she didn't send them to me so it's clear that she has been messaging someone else.
I'm absolutely devastated and feel like such a mug, it's Christmas day and I find this out
3 comments posted: Thursday, December 25th, 2025
Emotional Affair
Hi everyone, I have just joined and this is my first post. My wife and I have been together for 25 years, married for 7. A couple of years ago I encouraged her to apply for a cleaning job at a local pub which she got. After a while they asked her if she wanted to start working behind the bar which is the perfect job for her as she is very sociable.
After a while I noticed a new name kept commenting on her Facebook posts and when I mentioned it she said that he was a regular and they got along well, they are the same age and have lots of friends in common. One day she was showing me something on her phone when a text came through from this guy, I asked why he had her number and she said that he asked her for it so they swapped, I made it clear that I wasn't happy with it but she just dismissed it, "we're just mates".
Roll forward several months and she's left her phone in the kitchen after being in the pub all afternoon on her day off while I'm in there and it makes a noise, I just catch a message saying "did you get in trouble"
Curiosity overcame me and I opened her phone and found that they have been messaging constantly for months, even in the early hours of the morning. Although her messages were fine, his contained sexual references. I wrote her a letter to explain how I felt and she said "I don't know what you want me to do with that".
Despite laying everything down she continues to message him only now she has deleted all old messages and they only use Snapchat so everything is deleted immediately. I'm at a complete loss with where I go from here
30 comments posted: Saturday, December 9th, 2023
