Looking for help to just feel better...
After 22 years of marriage, my wife decided it was ok to "love two people" and vigorously pursue a long distance relationship with a colleague. She continued this for 8 years before I accidentally found out. They'd meet 3-5 times each year and also had monthly sex calls according to the wife.
I discovered her actions 22 years ago and I'm still needing some advice. I've done a lot of talking about this with her, have read more books than I care to recall and have listened to many different therapists about what happened and what to do.
I welcome any comments from anyone who has been through this, has seen counselors perhaps and what has worked for you. We are still together, mainly for the kids and family's sake. We've only spoken with doctors and some therapists.
Thanks for anything that you might have to offer.
0 comment posted: Saturday, June 27th, 2026
