Just found out my (35F) ex-boyfriend (35M) was cheated on for 8 years and doesn't know. I'm not the cheater.
I (35F) recently dated one of my oldest friends (35M) for 7 months, ending a few weeks ago. He's a truly lovely guy, but obviously still hung up over a relationship that ended in 2019 when he was 29.
He dated that woman from 2011 to 2019 - eight years. He's still so traumatized by it and says no one has compared since. (I think it's a trauma bond.)
I found out recently that the ex girlfriend of 8 years "cheated on him all the time" -- exact quote from one of that woman's close female friends. The exact details i know was that she was sleeping with at least a couple of people during their relationship -- i'm assuming many more, at any opportunity.
Question for the community is: Do I tell him? Will this help him heal?
18 comments posted: Thursday, September 4th, 2025
Just found out my (35F) ex-boyfriend (35M) was cheated on for 8 years and doesn't know. I'm not the cheater. (moved to General)
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