Please help. I'm new here and broken.
Thank you for accepting me into this forum. I'm hurting and don't know where else to turn. Here's the concise version. Found out my wife had an affair beginning weeks before our wedding and continuing for at least 12 years—that I know. We are high school sweethearts—met when she was 15 and I was 17. I have never been with anyone other than my wife, and I'm beyond devastated. More than the pain of her infidelity is her lies. She has never told the same story since I learned of the affair and stumbled upon a love letter from her boyfriend. I have read everything I can find about the dangers of trickle truth, and I'm living proof. I'm in love with a liar and have no desire to live without her. I've been under psychiatric care with two different doctors for decades, expressing the same feelings week after week. It was in the last session that my doctor referred to her as a con artist. I have sent my wife every article I could find about the importance of truth and transparency in order to overcome. Nothing stops the changing narratives. I'm beyond broken and need the help of others who have walked in my shoes. Thank you for reading.
51 comments posted: Tuesday, September 9th, 2025