Heartbroken

I just found that my husband cheated again. We’ve been married for 4 years and have a toddler together. The first time happened when I was 3 months postpartum. I found out about the affair on my birthday. I was deeply hurt and angry. My first reaction was to divorce him. When he was confronted about it, he wasn’t remorseful and said he didn’t consider this as cheating since it was just conversations. We separated for a few months and went to MC. We eventually got back to a good space.

Now fast forward to last week. The day after he returned from his trip with his best friends, I noticed he had a missed call from a woman whose number wasn’t saved, but her picture popped up. I thought it was weird at first but didn’t think too much of it. My thoughts were "he would be crazy to jeopardize our marriage again." Then I saw messages between him and his friend who was also on the trip. The messages confirmed that he was talking and physically cheated with this woman on the trip. After learning all this information, I was so heartbroken.

I confronted my husband about it. He denied it at first and said that wasn’t him in the messages and that was their other friend texting from his phone. He also wasn’t forthcoming with information when I asked him what exactly happened on the trip and who was the woman that called. Eventually I got answers and details, but by then my mind was already made up to get a divorce. He says he doesn’t want a divorce and how he loves me and wants his family to stay together. His actions clearly said otherwise. I think about our child and how my husband’s actions will cause major changes in our lives, but I also don’t want to stay "for the sake of the kids" and give my husband another opportunity to hurt me again and again. He says he won’t do it again, but I don’t believe him. I hate feeling like this.

6 comments posted: Friday, October 17th, 2025