What to do
Well I guess thanks for letting me join the forum none of us want to need! For me, DDay was Friday. It’s been a rough couple of years for all sorts of reasons but I really thought things were getting better. Turns out not and he’s been having an affair with someone at work, admitted only once the evidence was so clear that he couldn’t deny it. Says it was "only" a couple of times, never serious, I don’t know what to believe. He didn’t even try to cover his tracks.
He says he’s fallen so low, crossed boundaries he never thought he’d cross and is reassessing life/has already sought mental health support. He wants to make it work, I’ve moved out to think.
I guess my question is… does it ever work after? It really is out of character, he’s a complete open book social media/phone wise and I’m so comfortable this has never happened before. We are both in agreement as to what needs to change, but everything online is just "leave them"/doom and gloom.
I’m obsessing over her. She’s prettier, younger, thinner. I feel so inadequate now.
Thanks to anyone who got this far! It’s so lonely, I don’t want to tell anyone in case I try to make it work as they’ll never forgive him
13 comments posted: Monday, November 3rd, 2025
